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writes:Does he want to get with me by asking me to dinner even though he is curently engaged? I had a brief relationship with a much younger man, slept with him once after 2 months of freindship, and sort of pushed him away because I thought I was too old for him, he wants kids, I don't. He ran to another girl he had known for the previous 6 years but never dated the following week after we were together, flaunted her in front of me at a happy hour and hurt my feelings, but still asked me out, I broke that possibility off by telling him it was OK, I was too old for him and I was seeing someone else too. I had in my posession a valuable item of his that I was holding, tried to contact him to return it to him, but he never returned my calls, also he moved in with her and I did not have his new phone number until just recently. I called, he finally called back after a couple of weeks, and tells me that they are getting married in a few months and buying her parents business then also...I told him I would sell his item for him and to call me in a couple of weeks for the money...He said his girlfriend was kind of mad that I had called saying "she wants you" (also his phone call to me was out of her earshot as he made it from his work) I did not say anything to that comment, but when I said I would sell this thing for him, he says "I will take you to dinner if you can handle that" I just paused and said OK, then I said I had to go as someone was at the door...during the conversation he was trying to impress with me with how everthing was going so great for him and how happy he was, but then he made that comment about me wanting him, and he told his girlfriend she did not have anything to worry about, a little trust hear, and then I said thanks, and he said, no, I told her I wanted to marry her...then he said he would take me to dinner and all....do you think he wants to sleep with me again one last time, I think so because he blurted out that he would take me out to dinner, when he did not have to say that, what do you think am I just nutso to think that? He and I have a strong emotional connection, and are physically attracted and genuinely like eachother I think, although he has avoided me for 5 months and would not talk to me until now.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (19 October 2006):
 Send him the item by courrir, and forget hooking up with him. I get the feeling that you want to see him, but are looking for someone here to tell you its OK. Based on the way you wrote this post, I think you have issues with being with him becasue he is engaged. My guess is that he does want sex from you.
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reader, stina +, writes (19 October 2006):
 Hi Anon,
I'm not sure if it really means that this guy wants to sleep with you. It might mean that, but it might also be part of a mind game he's playing with you and/or his fiance. That's actually the first thing that I thought of.
Instead of sell the item for him, I suggest you return it and stop talking to this guy. He doesn't seem like he's any good for you friend-wise if the keeps saying ridiculous things, like you wanting him. (That to me sounds like he wants to have some kind of "battle" over him between you and his fiance.)
This is what I gather and recommend: You made it clear that you didn't want him, so he left and found someone else. Give him back his item, wish him well, and be done with it. Otherwise I think you're just asking for unnecessary drama.
Take care.
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