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writes:so i went out with this guy last night.... it was a half blind date of sorts since i knew him but he didnt know me. I intitiated contact... i saw him, i liked him and i sent him an email i got from his friend... which he responded to...and then he kept quiet for a while. so last week i sent him a "happy new year" email... and then he told me he'd like to meet me etc... we exchanged numbers... and in a matter of minutes, he rang me and we set up the yesterday date. it went really really well considering that we were strangers. we talked for such a long while that they practically kicked us out of the restaurant because they wanted to close. we seemed to have a lot in common too... and he's gorgeous!!!!!! anynway so when we were leaving he was like "hopefully we can meet up again". the word hopefully got me nervous because it is not a commitment to anything per se. i dont know if he means it literally or he used it as a figure of speech.plus if he really did want to see me... do you think he would have called or sms'd today at least. i havent heard anything from him all day... and i think i blew it by sending him a short email in the morning basically saying " thanks for a great conversation last night.. i loved it. hopefully we can do it again sometime". he hasnt replied all day... yet he's such an email person... he has in the past been replying within mins. so what do you think? is he not that into me? is it that now that the curiosity is gone.. he knows who i am , he doesnt want more? he laughed alot too...which made me think he thought i was funny... and we honestly did get along great... i thought. bt since he's remained quiet today... am starting to think that maybe it was jst good for me!! what do you think? what should i do? should i just lay low... and wait for him to call? is it possible that he likes me but he's jst taking his time with getting back to me. Or he's just not that into me! am a little on the big side.. and although he didnt mention anything last night [he's too good to be impolite].. am starting to worry that maybe he wasnt feeling me like that. although we had such a great time, i thought things like that dont matter. help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2012): thanks alot. this has helped alot. he actually replied my email 24 hours later saying he had a great time and hopefully we can do it again soon. I thought it was a little generic.. considering that we bonded..lol.. but i realise that i need to temper my expectations and calm down .. or i will overwhelm him. So i am now trying to re-focus on work.. that i have tons of... and hope that what i feel for him is mutual and will come to something. thanks again for your advice.. its calmed my nerves... you have no idea.x
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reader, Abella  +, writes (26 January 2012):
 Hold back a little, Allow him to initiate something or he may start to feel overwhelmed.
Full marks that you had the confidence to start this one off. You have a serious Crush in progress right now. One does not know where this Crush will go. But the good points are that he said yes, he clearly enjoyed your company. And at the end of the night he hinted that he would like it to happen again. Give the poor man a few more days.
I think he likes you but you do not want to over-whelm him. If it is meant to be it Will Happen.
Patience.
It is looking good.
I think he likes you, but more than that, well time will tell.
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