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writes:Does he fancy me or is he just being nice? I have a new superviosor at work who is 28. I am 50 years old but a lot of people there think I am between 35 and 42 years of age based on my appearance and attitude...This guy really flirts with me a lot, he occassionally has accidentally touched me and even called attention to that...he gives me a look in my eyes that tells me he seems to be attracted, however, he has gone out with another girl there who is only 20 and they even made out....he knows I am dating someone else....he seems to be a bit of a flirt, but he seems to like me....he even acted mad when another guy at work was sitting with me alone at lunch and talking to me, he asked him what are you doing trying to get a date? So does he want to get with me you think or am I totally delusional that a guy this age would ever be attracted to a woman as old as me? Is he just feeling safe with me because of our age difference? This is new experience to me, and I do find him cute, but think I am too old to flirt back seriously...what do you think...am I nuts or what?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, you are probably right on this one, however, I know a 48 year old woman who is in a 20 year relationship with a man who is 27 years her senior and they seem to be content obviously as it has lasted 20 years between them....I don't see why in society the reverse is not OK when an older female is with a man young enough to be her son, no one blinks when a man does this like Michael Douglas for instance, pretty ridiculous to be so harsh towards females and make them feel they must be pro sluts to even think about it....I do have a connection with another man who is around the same age as this one, and he really loves me, but we never went there as we decided it would be futile as he wants children and I do not as it is really too late for me to entertain starting a family. But hey thanks for sharing, I do think this particular guy is pretty immature.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2006): you asked 'am i nuts' .. honestly, yes, you are ... stay away from him. he is a young immature selfish disrespectful flirt.. c'mon he's old enough to be your son for cryin out loud. unless you're a pro sugar momma then play your cards right..sorry to be harsh but be realistic and have self-respect. decision is yours to make.. i know what i'm talkin about i was once a pro gigolo..
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, the thing is, I just ended things with the other guy but he does not know that yet...I just find it hard to trust that he would be attracted to me since I am so much older than he, and he does not seem very interested or serious about the 20 year old that he did take out, she is also seeing someone else, and old boyfriend...I am not into competing for a man especially a 20 year old....what I have over her is a better personality, and a confidence in who I am and what I want...I think this guy is really attractive, but I don't feel a real strong connection with him yet, I don't really know him enough yet to tell if I would truly be interested in seeing him..also, I would have to quit my job which I want to do anyway as soon as I find a better one...thanks for your interest in my question and I appreciate your answer...thanks.
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reader, marieclaire  +, writes (14 October 2006):
 well there's nothing wrong with a bit of a flirt. and in my experience if you're sensing a bit of sexual tension its probably there. most people have good intuition about that kind of thing and it seems that way to me. but you should look at why you care so much if you are seeing someone else. do you genuinely like the guy or are you just flattered by the attention. either way flirting is still ok but don't lead him on. :)
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