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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:One of my guy friends fancies a girl, and, as usual, me and loads of the other girls have been trying to get him to tell us who. One of his friends has been joking that it's certain girls who we know it wouldn't be, or at least presume he wouldn't fancy. And one of the girls, whom he keeps repeating that it is, is me. I have to admit, I like the idea of having someone fancy me. But I just feel like it's all come at the wrong time. Well, basically, I've been pretty certain that I'm gay for quite a long time (which I'm fine/totally happy with) but just over a year or so ago, I would have killed for a boyfriend. I'm obviously not going to date him just for a relationship, or to fulfill my old wishes, so what should I do? Of course there's a huge chance that it isn't me, but what if it is? His friend doesn't know about my sexuality, so he said we should go out, and I think the guy himself thinks I'm bisexual (as I told quite a few of my friends I was back when I was even more confused) so he might think there's a chance for us to date. Thank you for your help! Reply to this Question
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (5 November 2010):
 Well for now dont do anything - there is a chance it might not be you so dont say anything otherwise you might end up feeling embarrassed.
And if it turns out he does like you, and asks you out - then, when you are both alone, tell him the truth. If you are happy about your sexuality and certain you are gay then you will be happy to tell him this. If you dont want people knowing you are gay, then clearly you are not happy with your sexuality. But, hopefully, you are comfortable that you are gay and have no doubts about this therefore IF he does ask you out then you just tell him that you think he is a great guy and you do like him but you are gay and are not interested in men.
Throughout your teens you will have plenty of crushes on people, and other guys/girls will have crushes on you - it really doesnt matter if you dont recipcrocate the feelings. Just because he fancies you (possibly) doesnt mean anything has to happen - so just leave it alone and if he does end up asking you out, then tell him the truth. If he never says anything - well it is best not to embarrass him or yourself.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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