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writes:Could my sexual dysfunction caused by low grade , chronic, depression? I have a very damaged sexual function, and my life is deeply effected by it. My wife is thinking about living me, because she feels,Im not attracted to her anymore, and she is hurt. I can understand, because, she was very patient with me,so far, but I guess, she just have enough. But my question is , is it possible that I have zero desire, and lack of erection, because I have a low grade, chronic depression, what is hard to diagnose? I heard, as it is not as common , than the clinical depression? I m in perfect health, had every possible tests done,and they are all perfect. So now , this is a very long term problem, couple years long I would say. Please tell me, if you heard about a situation like mine. That would be very helpful Thanks.
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reader, eddie85 +, writes (25 July 2013):
 The short answer is: yes, depression can most certainly effect your sex drive. If you google depression, a loss of desire is often a side effect of depression.
You also have a lot of other things going against you:
1) With your wife threatening leaving, you are probably experiencing a lot of anxiety. This can cause erection problems. If she is truly worried about you not being attracted to her, you could perform oral or manual stimulation on her.
2) You are fighting your age. As men get older, their sex drive tends to lessen. Our testosterone drops and often we get out of shape as we age...
3) If you are taking medication for your depression (or any medication for that matter) be sure you check with your doctor about side effects. Most anti-depressants cause sexual side effects, including a loss of libido.
There are a few things you can do:
1) See your doctor. You should get treated for whatever is bothering you and go for a full check-up. Sometimes a loss of libido is the advance news of ill health.
2) See a therapist -- for yourself at first and possibly as a couple. It may just save your marriage.
3) Exercise. Mild exercise can work miracles for depression AND sexual issues. Find something you enjoy doing and make it a daily routine. Lose the extra weight and you'll find natural endorphins which can conquer mild depression.
I hope you take some sort of action to save your marriage -- and possibly your life...
Eddie
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (24 July 2013):
 In short, yes, it absolutely can.
Since you've already ruled out everything else that could be affecting your libido and ability to achieve an erection, I can only advise you to make time for your wife at least once or twice a month to do intimate sexual things. Think of it as cooking for her even when you're not hungry...even if you aren't in the mood for food, why let her starve if she's hungry?
Just because you can't get an erection anymore doesn't mean you can't perform oral sex on her, use your hands/fingers, and all manner of fun sex toys to please her sexually. A man is not just a penis.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (24 July 2013):
 Makes no difference what we've "heard"...... Get your a$$ to a urologist and find out what is really going on!!!!
Good luck...
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (24 July 2013):
 the brief answer to this concoluted question is: Yes, depression is a factor which is depressing in and of itself.
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