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writes:Does anyone else think that a persons profile pictures on Facebook, indicate what sort of person they are? I ask this because a girl who i've seen around university profile popped up on the side under 'people you may know'. Her photos were public and of course I like her (well I just think she's very good looking), I don't actually know her but I looked at them anyways.Pretty much all of the photos are from when she's out, so obviously she's a party person and has an active social life. Some are her pulling stupid poses or faces, just messing around which to me says she's fun and has a sense of humour. Sounds about right impression I get?But I did notice there are quite a lot of photos of just her, some posed taken herself and others taken by someone else. Thing is, does that mean that she is vain, or conceited? She is beautiful and does look good in the photos, but I don't know if her having quite a few photos of just her means that she is into herself and knows how good looking she is? Or what impression would you get...
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012): "Thing is, does that mean that she is vain, or conceited?"
Could be that, it could be that she's insecure too and fishing for compliments or as is most likely the case this girl is happy, confident and not afraid to express herself and show her joy to others.
OP there is this crazy misconception that a woman who knows she's beautiful and likes to show that beauty to the world is a vain bitch or she must be painfully insecure if she has to show that off.
Want to know what's funny? After all this time trying to promote liberation and equality for women, empowerment and freedom of expression without being cast down, when it comes to beauty feminists and indeed a hell of a lot of women would rather other women kept their mouth shut and never deem themselves "too beautiful". Google 'Samantha Brick' if you want to see what I mean. She came out and wrote an article stating that she's beautiful and listing lots of reasons she thinks that is a hindrance on her life and she was pounced on by literally 10's of thousands of other women mainly telling her she is an ugly bitch, deluded and whole host of other disgusting degrading crap, all because this woman wasn't modest enough for other women to handle. It seems it's more acceptable to be depressed and feel ugly, or be ugly and feel beautiful than it is to be hot and show it.
Get rid of this idea you have in your mind that a girl that knows she's beautiful or is confident enough to post artsy poses on facebook is somehow conceited or vain or insecure. People still have this jealous competitive streak where they cast down anyone who even hints at knowing their hot, or expresses themselves in terms of being beautiful. Don't be just another idiot that lets his preconceptions guide his judgements of people. She may well be just as beautiful and fun in her personality as she looks in her photos. There's only one way you'll find out and you'd be a fool not to try and get to know the girl behind the pose.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (5 April 2012):
 I think it's pretty normal. Like someone said, Facebook already is kind of narcissistic. While it can be a great resource for connecting with friends, it's also kind of a place to brag about yourself. This was just the way of doing photos when I was in high school. I don't think you should write her off for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012): I wouldnt judge if i were you, youll learn and get all the answers about who she is when you get to know her if you do.
I noticed some picks of a girl on facebook once, we met at a dance, and these picks basically looked like lady gaga. I thought it was creepy and weird, almost never bothered texting the number i got. Turned out it was her halloween costume, i noticed to a bunch of sexy pics, thought maybe shes to friendly with guys, she models and photography is her hobby.
You dont know what a picture truly means till you get to know the person who's in it.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (5 April 2012):
 facebook itself is narcissism. if someone looks good why shouldn't they revel in it? whats the problem. facebook is simply extrovision X by narcissim minus lack of money for other communication methods.
if you like her go for it and stop hesitating out of fear of failure disguised as random nit picking.
and yes you can judge people based on pictures but your judgements will never be as accurate as your instinct when you meet in the flesh. good luck!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (5 April 2012):
 For your age group I think it's pretty normal. Everyone wants to look like they have a grand ole time 24/7.
Though I would venture a guess that she is a little self absorbed and vain and at the same time have some good self esteem. I'm betting she spends a LONG time looking in the mirror and wants a LOT of validation from people around her.
Now if they were with her dressed in bikini's or next to nothing then I would guess at low self esteem.
I could be wrong.
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