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writes:theres this guy I like at my job,im new there well since ive been there he been nothing but xtra nice to me, he'll ask me how my day is going,always smiling at me...he'lol wait for me to get off work if we get off at the same time and ride the elevetor with me....he makes small chit chst when he can...he holds the door open for me....he'll sit back in his seat and watch me if im working in his area and tilt his head back and smile..... two days ago he rode the elevetor and asked me what am I going to do when I get paid and when do we get paid (mind u he's been there for a few months) I just started..... yesterday he stood in the doorway and looked at me, like he wanted to say something to me but he didnt..... I really like him...and I dunno if hes being nice cuz im new, if hes the company snitch and is nosey, or does he really have a crush on me...we are the same age, im the office assistant and he is an engineer...... well he came back to work today and made sure he let me know he was there, cuz I sure as hell wasnt paying attention, he came up behind me with this big azz smile on his face and was like what you workin on....and tried to help me out.....oh he bought something from my family members fundraiser and I gave him a thank you note and it had a clownhat on a coffeemug with a smiley face on it....and I assume he read it, cuz a few minutes after that, I was talkin to a fellow male co-worker and ol boy passed by me and gave me a dirty look ....jealous maybe? ive been hurt in the past...and I aint tryna get hurt again.....help me thanks im african american and he is irish....my family isnt too fond of that but i dont care...i really like him, and from his actions i think he likes me but i want a second opionion... do you think he'll ever admit it...if he does have one regardless if we work together or not ... today 10/18/2013 he was like the boss is gonna give u more work, watch, i told him to shut up...then he comes around again and repeated himself, and i in turn said i dont like you, and dude put his head down and his face was just so saddened by what i said, cuz he said to me i know, with this hurt look in his face and he didnt even look at me, i just giggled and walked away.....and before he went home he smiled at me and put both hand up with slightly curled fingers waving bye....and i said bye.....why did he do that, and why wont he just ask me out instead of consistantly flirting....i understand we work together, but that doesnt mean we cant make it work. i do like him alot, ...." "well i went out on a limb today and sent him a note ( i just handed it to him, with my head down and he was like whats this i just shook my head and he was like ok, and then left....well im assmuing he read it cuz he didnt walk past me at all for the rest of the day....the note stated, hey i know we work together and i really do like you and i want to get to know you outside of work, so if you are interested call me, and i left my number.... he didnt stop at my desk like he normally does nor did he pass by me after i gave him that note early this afternonn..... i notcied he did go to the bosses office for a min and i was in the hallway and he looked back at me with no facial expression .....
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2013): Today he didn't come around until my coworkers pushed him to go to lunch with them
He passed by my desk and said hi sasha with a stern voice and wouldn't nor didn't look at me... yet in stood in the hallway facing the wall for a few minutes before he walked off... my bro said that's what guys do when they really like u... he said ol boy will come around when he isn't so eluding
My bro said this guy is eluding me because he is shy and doesn't know how to respond to what I said. .
I told him in the note I didn't mean what I said on Friday, (i had orgianlly told him i didnt like him) and actually I like you allot and wouldn't mind getting to know you outside of work... and I wrote if you are interested call me and I left my number... and today the above happened
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reader, Miss.Cupid +, writes (25 October 2013):
 I think he was just trying to make you feel comfortable by being naturally flirtatious. However at this time you cant really do anything
Maybe you ran before you can walk? by admitting your feelings right away.
The ball is on his court, so just wait it off, if he never calls you or just acts weird then there you have it, he was never interested in you to begin with . Good Luck.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 October 2013):
 Some folks are smart and know that dating a co-worker is not wise... if it does not work out you are stuck seeing each other at the office and being adult and civil which can be hard.
Also some people are just natural flirts and don't mean anything by it... I'm happily married but none of his behavior would be beyond work behavior I would have with male co-workers.
YOU like him and want to date him but he may not want to date you for various reasons.
since you gave him a note and your number, all you can do now is wait for him to respond.... it's possible he will just ignore it... that is an answer too... just not the one you want.
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