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writes:ok well here's the thing, I'm gay right! I have a boyfriend who I been with for 1 year and 5 months. We live together and currently planning our wedding! I have one problem with him?! My problem with him is that he tells me that his family and friends mean more to him than his LOVE life. I mean I understand the family part right! Cuz family should always come first but friends??? I don't know about that one, I'm like so lost on that one! I mean we love each other right; we both work and stuff, I give him everything he wants. I am the most romantic person he has ever met as he says. His friends love the fact that he has a boyfriend like me cuz of how I treat him! But I'm really not satisfied with the fact that he doesn't act loveable with me, he isn't romantic at all! I mean I don't expect him to be romantic 24/7 but I wanna feel loved you get me? We talked bout this so many times and he's told me that I can't change him at all, that he won't be romantic at all cuz that's not him! I mean a person should never change for anyone unless the person thinks it's right, he or she should only change for themselves! But he expects me 2 be romantic?? What should I do?!
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reader, eddie  +, writes (5 October 2008):
 Que pasa boriqua...un consejo para ti....If you are looking for someone to be romantic and you feel the need to be loved that way then this may not be the man for you. You see, when you become married, that person becomes your family. That person is the love of your life. Of course you will always love your mother, abuela, sister etc but it is a different type of love. The love you feel in a romantic way is exciting and is differnet than the love of a mother.
Since I don't know you this is a little difficult. Maybe you are a very needy person and require too much attention. If this is the case it can make you look weak. Be careful. In the begining of a relationship if is natural to want to go over the top to please your partner. I this guy is already letting you down, it will probably get worse.
Preguntale a el lo que quiere. Preguntale si el quiere estar contigo para siempre. Asi sabes si ustedes estan en la misma pagina.
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (5 October 2008):
 romance and lovers come and go. your family is ALWAYS there.
stop being petty.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2008): If you are confused by his answer about loving his family and friends more, just ask him to elaborate on this, as sometimes we can take things the wrong way, and you must be thinking does that mean he loves them more than me..rite?!
I see the other problem here is you are a hopeless romantic.. aww, as most of us are when we have our rose petal glassess on, and everything is wonderful, but after awhile we have to remove these glasses and make sua we are not throwing our pearls away to the pigs...
Take care and do wat is in your heart that you feel is right!
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