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Do you think it was his phone call? Was he too shy to speak?

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Question - (11 June 2019) 5 Answers - (Newest, 12 June 2019)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Ok - one for the guys:-

I left my number with a guy I'm quite keen on. I told him he must keep in touch with me and text me to let me know how he's getting on (as we are both on separate vacations for the next month or two), I think he's fairly sure I'm attracted to him as we flirt quite a lot but he was reluctant to make any real moves on me - so I'm not sure he wants to get involved.

Today I get a call from a number I didn't recognise who put the phone straight down as soon as I said 'hello'. Without phoning back and seeming overly keen to ask - What are the chances it could be him? I am unsure of his phone number and I feel if it was some random person selling stuff they would have spoken!

Am I reading too much into this? Or could it be him being too shy to speak? I don't really want to ring back incase it's some scammer or something.

Advice please.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2019):

Never call back an unknown number bc there are so many scam plans on the mobile phones, one such plan is they have agreements with phone companies that everytime someone calls them the telephone company charge the caller something like $5 on behalf of the scamming company. IMO if someone wants to contact you they can send you an SMS if they cant reach you by phone.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (11 June 2019):

N91 agony auntHe has your number so if he wants to contact you he will do. If it was him though are you really looking for someone who’s afraid to speak to you? Sounds extremely childish if it was him.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (11 June 2019):

Honeypie agony auntFully agree with FA

IF (let's entertain the idea that it was him for a second) he called and can't even speak, WHAT is the point of keeping in contact? You expect to carry on getting to know him to monologues? (yours) or what?

In the US there are companies that call (and say nothing) and then SELL your number (as it's OBVIOUSLY active).

I also agree with the... don't TELL a shy man what he MUST or MUSTN'T do.

Shy or not... you LEFT the ball in his court. If he doesn't pick it up that is HIS choice. You can't MAKE him want to talk to you.

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A male reader, Fatherly Advice United States + , writes (11 June 2019):

Fatherly Advice agony aunt95% chance of telemarketing.

3% chance of accidental dial.

1% chance ghost in the machine.

less than one percent chance of wishful thinking coming true.

Advice: Don't dial back to unknown numbers. Unless you get your entertainment harassing telemarketers.

Pertinent advice: Don't tell shy men what they "must" do.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2019):

You left your phone number with him so leave it up to him to contact you. If it was him and he was too shy to speak, then it doesn't bode well for future relations. I can't imagine that he would call and then hang up, unless there was some problem with the connection. In which case he may try again.

If it was me I would return the call to find out. If it's a scammer, it doesn't matter, just hang up. If it was me I also wouldn't say to someone that they MUST keep in touch and let you know how they're getting on. It sounds a bit demanding and also like you want to check up on what they're doing.

I would be careful how you phrase things. Once you've given him your number I would just say it would be nice to hear from him.

Anyway good luck, hope it turns out well for you :-)

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