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writes: Me and my BF are kind of on a break...He went out of town and is returning on Saturday. Just before going away yesterday, we fought and he dumped me.I had seen him a few days before. he almost criend when he said he'd miss me. I gave him my library pass so he'd remember me, so he'd have something that belonged to me.Yesterday before leaving I called him to ask if I should go pick my stuff over at his place (he wasn't going to be there anyway... I wanted my stuff, including my library pass), he said I could go, but that he had "forgotten" to leave my pass, so I'd have to wait until he came back.So I forgot about it.Then in the afternoon he called, and told me not to go to his house, that when he came back he wanted to see me so we'd talk.Then, later, in the evening he called to tell me he had arrived safely to his destination. He also confessed he didn't forget to leave my pass, he had taken it with him intentionally. He said he missed me, and also asked me to think of him. He also said that he hadn't taken his cell phone charger, so he'd have his cell phone turned off most of the time so he wouldn't spend all the battery. He said he'd call today, and he hasn't.I don't know if we're back together, if he wants to get back together, I have no idea. But the last day I saw him (Monday) he said maybe he'd meet up with a female friend of his that lives there (they're online friends only). I got upset with that, and he said he wouldn't that he didnt want to make me angry, that he didn't feel much like it anyway, that also she's ugly and that he'd never cheat.But now I don't know... maybe as we are on this kind of break, he will meet up with her. Maybe he will cheat (or OK, maybe it wouldn't be cheating as we're on I don't know what terms!), with her or maybe someone else. He has his cell phone off, and hasn't called. It's 19:30 here already... he went there with a male friend of his, maybe tehy'll go for the hunt tonight? And should I even be upset about all this?I mean, for the things he did yesterday (calling me) and what he said, he gave me the impression that he wants to work things out on Saturday. We broke up because of his own jealousy by the way (HE DUMPED ME). I haven't cheated or anything... he just dislikes some things I did in my past, but in the relationship, I haven't done anything (except maybe talking to an ex that I stopped talking to already).Do you think he'll cheat? He has his cell phone off! I don't even know if it counts as cheating!
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (2 May 2008):
 Just because he has his phone off, does not mean he would cheat. You are running ahead of yourself a bit, but I dont blame you in the slightest. He should not give you mixed messages, and make you think that you are getting back together, if your not. Thats very childish of him!!
My advice would be to ignore the fact he has no phone on, why not turn yours off as well?. Go out with your mates and have a good time. Stop sitting there waiting for this man to decide your life for you, you only have one you know!!!!
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reader, lexilou +, writes (2 May 2008):
 Maybe his phones off so he can have to time to think about your relationship and if you text him etc he's not going to get the chance to miss you. You can cheat with your phone switched on too so dont assume it means anything. Give yourselves some time apart to see if you really both want the same things. x
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (2 May 2008):
 Wow... this is a lot to sort out, but I'm going to be bold and give it a shot.
First of all, I really think you're doing too much thinking here. You're racing down a blind alley at 100 mph with no real evidence that he's going to cheat on you... or for that matter if you guys are still together or not. Having forgotten my charger many times, turning your phone off to save the battery seems normal to me. I would also say, you could always call and leave a voice-mail message so that when he does turn it on, your message will get through (same for SMS too BTW).
So, I really think you're reading too much into this and letting your imagination fill in the gaps with the worst possible outcome. What for him to get back and try to not jump to too many conclusions...
Good luck...
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