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writes:I met a guy online and we began dating, he was very intense, talking about future and using the love word(albeit indirectly) after just a few weeks. We were getting on great and he bombarded me daily with texts etc, then last week discovered he was back online on the dating website. I didn't discuss this with him as I didn't wanna look like a stalker, however he has just stopped texting and calling.I text him yesterday saying he had obviously decided he didn't wanna see me again and it would have been nice of him to let me know. He replied saying you know how much I care for you, I'm just stressed about things and sometimes it's easier to run away from the things that matter most. Please don't hate me. I then text him asking him if he was finishing it then and he said not finishing it, I just don't want you to end up hating me, I'm panicking about things.I don't know what to do because why if he is trying to finish it, didn't he just ignore my text and I would have gotten the message? Surely that would have been easier? Do you think he has genuine feelings for me or do you think he is trying to break up and still look like the good guy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): Guys!We can't live with them and can't live with out them.Guys lose interest pretty quickly dear.Not all of them but some of them do.For them the chase is what that matters.Once a girl starts taking an interest in them they feed crap and bull like"I am panicking.I need some space.Its not you.Its me".(am rolling my eyes here).For once feel confident about yourself.Say it out aloud,"I am beautiful,intelligent and nice.He doesn't know what he's missing".Stop thinking about him.He's not even worth this question.All the best dear.Hope you find someone wonderful.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (7 October 2008):
 Very hard to say isn't it. The only worrying thing is, people that fall 'in love' very quickly, quite often fall out of love at similar lightning speed hun.
If he is on dating sites again, I dont get why you didn't ask him about that? Dont be a doormat. If the guy is instigating he is in love with you one minute, then back on the net on the look out for someone new the next,I would be asking HIM why, I wouldn't be asking people on here.
Good luck.
C xxxxx
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reader, Ikey  +, writes (7 October 2008):
I think that giving him a couple of days space would help out. Leave the ball in his court. Don't text him or call him. Just let him get through his panic. Trust is important and practicing trust is also important. He may or may not be letting go of you. Think about what is important to you. Take a couple of days and then, if still no response from him, you could maybe reconsider this question. In the mean time try to focus on yourself and let thoughts of him slip out of your head as fast as they come in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2008): This is a hard question because its hard to guess what other people are feeling. I can relate because I just recently went through the same thing. It went from I love you to I don't know what I want to I'm with another girl in one week. So I would be cautious if he showing doubtful behavior because he may be trying to have his cake and eat it too. Most likely you will be the one hurt in the long run. Thats just from my personal experience and I hope things work out the best for you because I know it hurts.
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