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writes:I'm only 16 but i've never had a boyfriend and i've only ever kissed guys that have been drunk at parties. Im really unconfident about myself, particuarly my appearance, and i just feel so unwanted. Do I have to be pretty to be loved?
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reader, chelseac13  +, writes (31 October 2011):
 Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I have seen the most beautiful women (and men!) live a single life for a very, very long time. I have a friend who is stunningly beautiful (or at least I think so) and is 21 years old and never had a boyfriend. There are billions of reasons why you may not have a boyfriend but instead of pining over them, enjoy all the amazing things you already have. I've seen this happen a million times, a girl thinks she isn't pretty and doesn't understand why they don't have a boyfriend. They go to parties or wherever and hook up with people randomly and hope it turns into something more. Unfortunately, this comes off as desperate and men are ALWAYS turned off by a desperate women. I'm sure you have heard this countless amounts of times but the more you look for someone, the more likely it is that you won't find it. The most amazing boyfriends are the one who come along when you aren't looking. Trust me! Also, there are many people who think that you are attractive. There is always someone who thinks that you are beautiful. Go out, have fun, enjoy your adolescence and your perfect guy will come along when you least expect it!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2011): Absolutely not, because pretty is relative to whatever you are sexually attracted to.
Recently, I really liked a guy who was in a relationship and the girlfriend was his world... objectively- this isn't spite or personal bias- I thought the girlfriend was extremely unattractive. Even if she hadn't been dating someone I had feelings for her... I think that your lack of confidence is what you need to work on. What do you dislike about your appearance? How can you change that?
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reader, .Here.2.Help. +, writes (22 August 2011):
The person who loves you will think you're pretty... Just wait; they'll find you.
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reader, Dataluke +, writes (22 August 2011):
 To speak on behalf of men before we get branded as pigs I would like to say that you do not have to be pretty to be loved.
Virtually all guys from 12 to 20 will judge you on looks above all else but I am here to tell you that there are those who do not, I am one such individual.
My fiancee would not consider herself a 'looker' and if I am honest there are more attractive women out there, although I don't see them anymore. I love her more than anything and wouldn't change her for all the more attractive women in the world.
Its not you that is at fault, its the guys you hang out with, you will eventually fine a guy or 2 that will not judge you just for looks but will see beyond and look at you for who you are. And when he does as I have with my fiancee, he will see how pretty you truly are.
Don't worry about it, there will be a decent guy out there for you, and he will be worth waiting for.
All the best, Dataluke
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2011): Sadly, most guys would think yes and vice-versa...
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