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Do women give oral sex out of the blue, or is there an ulterior motive behind it?

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Question - (7 April 2011) 6 Answers - (Newest, 8 April 2011)
A male United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

A few friends of mine were talking one night over beers and one said his girlfriend gave him a blow job 'out of the blue' when he got home from work one night - for apparently no reason. We all called BS, but he was adamant that he didn't do a thing for it to happen and she didn't want anything from him...thus far.

So I'm wondering, do women give oral sex to their partners out of the blue? If so, why? Are there ulterior motives going on?

Just curious.

SIDE NOTE: I say ulterior motives because I know someone else who, through oral sex from his girlfriend, agreed to get a dog, when he didn't really want one - in essence, his girlfriend tricked him into committing to a dog.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011):

Sorry to make this comment ladies, but it seems like you all have a reason though - even if it may not be tangible.

For example, 'power play' to 'feel in control'...if that's not an ulterior motive, I don't know what is?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011):

I give my partner oral out of the blue at LEAST once a week. By that I mean I will approach him, turn him on and suck him off, without expecting him to return the favour.

I have a cock-sucking fetish, though, so perhaps I'm not the best example (I involve it in sex 100% of the time). It makes me kind of sad that these guys are WTFing over this. There are a lot of us girls out there that genuinley enjoy this act.

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A female reader, smiliek Australia +, writes (8 April 2011):

smiliek agony auntwell i give my hubby bjs all the time just cause i like to and he loves them. No motive behind it. I think girls who use sex as a tool are very shallow and immature. In a loving relationship i've never come across it

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (8 April 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntHate to break it to you but I give BJs cause I want to.

truth is the head rush of how it makes my guy feel is awesome... it's a power play....

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011):

I, like some other women, just like to make my partner happy. I give him oral frequently. I don't expect anything back from my guy, except maybe a back rub. Immature women will use sex to obtain gains that are unrelated to love, however. Be wary of them. They're out for your wallet. Either that, or they feel starved for power in the relationship. Not a good psychological quality, if you ask me.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011):

A woman will give oral to a man for the same reasons a guy will give oral to a woman. It turns them on. Ya probably when I was your age I didn't like giving oral and didn't care for getting oral. It just didn't seem appealing.

But in my late 20's and now 30, I love giving oral. And I love getting oral. I think with age you enjoy sex more because you are better at doing it. So it is more enjoyable. And you can pleasure your partner more because you are more experienced and more confident.

Your friends GF might truly enjoy doing this even at a young age. Nothing wrong with that.

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