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reader, sexygyal  +, writes (8 October 2008):
Nothing could turn me on more than to see my boyfriend turned on by me. I find watching him masturbate sexy, and when we're both turned on it could only lead to good things. Watching him do his business, makes me want to help. It's definitely a good thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): Men do this for a number of reasons. Rarely is it because he is not satisfied with his partner. One reason is it is quick easy and not emotional. Sometimes it is nice to not have to focus on how mush he loves his partner or her pleasure. As far as it is a turn on for women to see her man do this, as with most things it just depends on the woman. This is why talking with your partner is the best sex advice anyone can give.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2008): Nope! I think it's hot :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2008): I find male masterbating quite erotic, a real turn on for me.
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reader, Fade878  +, writes (26 March 2008):
 I understand that most men will do it, even if they are married and sexually fulfilled. They do it as sometimes it is a different feeling and they are in control of how they feel.
I was better not knowing how much the EX was doing it...finding out he did it to porn was another issue.
I guess, for me, I would prefer to be the number 1 person my man would turn to for any type of sexual fulfillment.
I was raised being taught that self discipline over emotions, feelings should be something one must work on-that they are in charge of their emotions and not the emotions in charge of them.
I was taught that if you are doing it to feel good, that it is bordering on selfishness. That those feelings are designed to occur between man and woman in the bonds of marriage. That it is a means to strengthen and unite. A healhty means of expression of true intamacy.
It depends on what you think and believe about it.
I'd say if you have to do it daily...you are not master of your flesh and for me, being I am a strong minded woman...it's a bit of a turn off. I obstain from it and it's my choice. Some will laugh at this but...I prefer to have those feelings only with someone I love and care about.
However...if you were to do it while I was present...hella hot! Pretty sure that is not what you are asking.
You decide dude.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): i think that its a turn on as long as hes doing it for u and infront of u or at least u and ur partner watching porno and hes masterbating or both of u together.but i have one thing to say my husband used to do it alot while i was away and therefor he didnt want to have sex with me that much; that i found it so painfull and sad
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2008): how about if your boyfriend is masterbating to porn? i just found out my bf masterbate to porn alot in now am really confused am trying to understand why he does it i dont know if i should be ok about it
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): It's natural, and I don't find it a turn-off, per se. However, it is proven that the more a guy masterbates, the more likely he is to "run out of steam" during sex. The avid masterbater is 10 times more likely to fizzle out early while his partner is still raring to go. Frustrating!(people please! Masterbate is a character in Captain Pugwash. Masturbate is what you guys can't spell. please use a dictionary - Mod)
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2008): i so totally find masterbating a turn on and especially if my man is thinking about me. i encourage it as much as possible. they say the more u masterbate the more u will want it and besides it helps u find out what u like so if u need tell someone special how to hit ur spot they can do it just purrrrfect.
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reader, sweetashoney  +, writes (16 November 2007):
for me i think its so hot.men are so sexy masterbating. i always want to masterbate along with my boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): I am an older man 67 and youthfull. I still masterbate maybe 5 to 8 times a week. I have always been very sensual sexual. But I have always wondered if women find male sexuality attractive. Now I see that it seems most do. Thank you ladies for your honesty. I often have an exibition fantasy of masterbating for several women and they all long to touch me all over and they get juicy and make themselves come.
I hope I have not been too loud here because I never want my sexuality to offend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): It depends on if your girlfriend/wife is attracted to you. I was with my ex for 5 years & I eventually started finding myself discusted by him. He would want sex & I would tell him to just jack off b/c I hated the thought of having sex with him. He would jack off & I found it so discusting. Especially the time it shot in his eye. God is he gross. But my husband now, I love him & I wouldn't mind if I told him to do it & he did. However, I have told him to do it and he is too shy to. So we just have sex..but if I saw him doing it & he didn't know I was there, i think I'd just get on it & finish the job for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2007): As I got a little more mature, more adventurous, I was less self-conscience and when, with my girl friends, I would get turned on. Eventually, out it came, and I started spanking my monkey. My female friends seemed to really enjoy it. Some would assist me and a few went down on me when time came to squirt. lots of erotic fun. The next time it came up-- it went in them. For some of the girls, I made a photographic show where my lovers would see me reading something pornographic, you could see, thru the underware, the growing buldge. Then out it came and would pleasure myself, wack-offing off a squirting my load. I put the presentation on Disks and gave them to the ones I was closest too. Guess they still have them....and I hope they still enjoy them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): Personally, nothing is a bigger turn on especially if I am the inspiration. Talk about undeniable measurable sincerity of attraction.
Unfortunately, it's too bad you have to end that activity to continue to the tasting and more that are almost inevitable with a man masterbating as inspiration. If you don't believe me check out Playgirls website and note that all of the clips to entice you involve a man reaching down his pants.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2007): From a male perspective, my wife does not find it a turn on. Nor does she find it a turn off. It's hard to know
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): It's a total turn on especially when I get to see the guy come and too much would be when it disrupts your performance as to where you cant keep it hard...that is the turn off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2007): I find that a man masturbating is a major turn on. It gets me very horny to watch a man masturbate especially when I get to see him spurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2007): hell no!!
its a total turn on!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
well it is for me
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): once i told my bf to must in front of me. when he started i turned very hot what a experence was that after when he about to shot he kissed me so hard i can never forget that kiss.
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reader, sara518 +, writes (20 August 2007):
 i asked my boyfriend to masturbate in front of me, he was kind of nervous but it turned me on alot alot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): No. I would love to watch my bf masturbate. But I am scared to ask. And I am shy to watch. I asked him once to touch himself and he did and I started laughing and he got really embarassed and stopped. But the reason I was laughing was because I was so turned on that I got shy and nervous and I always laugh whenever I am nervous. But even the little glimpse I got was priceless and very memorable.
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reader, guyguy  +, writes (19 August 2007):
Again if find it very horny if a guy masterbates in front of me - such a big turn on. But on the other hand if my guy masterbates on his own a lot a would find this hurtful
i know some woman cant be pleased
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reader, peacedreamer +, writes (19 August 2007):
I find it very sexy, but that's just me. I think that if my guy were to be that open with me to do something in front of me that is so private, just so hot. But, each woman thinks differently. You would want to talk to your partner and find out if she would like that. You may want to include her in your adventure...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2007): Huge turn on. I find if I am not quite in the mood and hubby thinks aw well I'll start without you its not long before I'm joining in. I don't think there is a right or wrong number of times to do it though.
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (18 August 2007):
 well we do it for as well and girls know that turns you on, i havent watched a guy musturbate yet. how many times a day you do it is up to you. what ever turns you on.
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reader, pain_in_heart +, writes (18 August 2007):
wen im with my fiancee and he does it next to me it turns me on so much because he touches me at the same time i nw he feels good for me so i lyk 2 know that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2007): I find it a turn off. But if I don't know about it, then it doesn't matter. More than 2 times a day is too much.
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reader, RebeccaT +, writes (18 August 2007):
Turn on definately but i think more than bout 3 times a day would freak certain ppl out.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (18 August 2007):
 I happen to find it a major turn on and i could not care less how many times aday he does it.
Take care.xx.
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reader, hugs2muchgal +, writes (18 August 2007):
 For myself personally it is not a turn off. It's a guy's (and a girl's) right to masterbate. It's natural.
When I'm not with my boyfriend and he wants to release that "pent up energy", I rather he masterbate than find another woman.
There can't be a set number of times to do this every day. It's a personal decision for you. If you're really craving it one day, go ahead and do it more than once. If you don't feel like it, don't do it for a few days. This is all up to you (though if you have a girlfriend hopefully she'd be there to help and you wouldn't have to do it as often.)
Hope this helped.
-Hugs
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