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Do women actually cum too???

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Question - (7 July 2010) 8 Answers - (Newest, 23 July 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Just to let you know i am 16 but for some reason it hasnt changed my age on here:/

Do women actually cum? I know this sounds strange but my boyfreind asks me during sex if im about to cum but i dont know. if so what happens?? or do i just not realise? sorry this sounds really stupid but can someone explain please who is not going to think i am a total idiot.

thanks (:

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A male reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (23 July 2010):

olderthandirt agony auntLike the others say, he's tryingto "time" his orgasm with yours... A mutual orgasm is intense so the goal is to try to sybchronize the event

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A reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

okay thanks everyone for this info :)

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A male reader, daletom United States +, writes (8 July 2010):

Your B/F wants to know if you are near orgasm.

The fact that he has to ask probably says that you two don't have much experience interpreting, or expressing, the body language cues that happen during sex.

And the fact that you asked this question probably means that you have not yet learned to have orgasms.

That's all acceptable - these are both things that you'll learn as you get more experience.

There is a persistent belief that it's more pleasurable if both the guy and the girl have orgasms together, so he may be attempting to time his climax so it coincides with yours. In fact, the majority of couples hardly ever have simultaneous orgasms - and are quite satisfied with that situation. It's nice if it happens on occasion but most people get a lot of satisfaction by being with their partner when he/she climaxes, and don't have the chance to enjoy that if they themselves are in the middle of an orgasm.

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A female reader, SirenaBlusera Mexico +, writes (8 July 2010):

SirenaBlusera agony auntYes, and no.

The biological purpose of ejaculate is to release sperm which fertilize an egg and make a little human!

When women become aroused, they sometimes secrete a vaginal discharge, the purpose of which is to lubricate the vagina... kinda like KY jelly, only natural.

I clarify that you CAN get pregnant even if the man doesn't ejaculate... if you're a fertile woman and have intercourse or vaginal contact with sperm, you can get pregnant.

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A male reader, The Realist Canada +, writes (7 July 2010):

The Realist agony auntWhen he asks during sex he probably means are you going to orgasm but saying are you cumming is a hotter term in the moment. Yes women, but not all can actually cum and will release a liquid at the time of orgasm. I don't know how it all works or why some can and some can't though. I'm sure he is not expecting a full "squirt" as it is often called but he is wanting you to orgasm.

Hope this helps you out.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2010):

Women do 'cum' in the sense that they have an orgasm, but in most cases it's different to the way men 'cum' in that all men ejaculate a fluid, whereas many women don't. That's not to say that all women don't, because some can. But in most cases I think women come, but don't spurt out 'cum'.

You would definitely realise if you had come, because you would have an orgasm, which would feel pleasurable. I'm not sure you could predict whether you were 'about to' come or not. From what you say, it sounds like you have yet to experience an orgasm. Try not to make it the sole purpose of sex, and try not to worry about whether you are going to or not, because this will put you under a lot of pressure, and probably make it less likely to happen. Instead, try and experiment with different ways of pleasuring each other, and above all try to relax. Hopefully when you're comfortable you'll be able to come.

Good luck

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A male reader, Tapatio75 United States +, writes (7 July 2010):

Tapatio75 agony auntWell, you have an orgasm too, you'll know when you have one

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A female reader, Pinkpies United Kingdom +, writes (7 July 2010):

haha

Yeah, some woman do ... some just orgasm .... some don't do either, but still have a good time.

cum is obviously when some liquid cums out, a bit like a boy, but normally less - it can dribble out a bit, or rush out quickly.

Everyone is different, young guys might focus too much on 'cumming' as that's what they do, and possibly see it important. Sex is different for girls, cumming might not be the be all and end all.

;)

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