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writes:A massive row between my boyfriend and I began when I left a pub we were in when he kept flirting with other girls. It may sound stupid but he kept putting his arms around them and kissing their cheeks, complimenting them on their outfits....I knew he was a flirty kind of guy who I had just had some bad news that very day, an auntie who I am very close to had been in an accident, she lives over 2 hours drive away so I couldn't get to there as soon as I wanted and I was really worried so he convinced me to go out with our friends and try to cheer up. But he spent the whole night talking to friends and chatting to these girls. I sat with my friends and he didn't come over once in the whole night. I gave up and went over to tell him I was heading home. He seemed ok with it at the time, so I was even more upset. When he came home, well we have never fought like it before. It went on for hours and in the end, he walked out and went over the road to where a friend lives. In the end, we made up but it hasn't been the same since. My aunt was ok and when it came to it, he drove me there and stayed overnight with me. We had never said things like we did before and now it's in my head and I can't seem to stop thinking it. I guess he might think the same, but if I were to ask him to talk about it, do you think it would be a bad idea? Also do other people have rows and can't seem to stop thinking about things said in anger?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (15 March 2015):
 It does not sound stupid. To do it in front of you is plain disrespectful. If you knew he would go that far when you first met him you wouldn't have continued dating him. I know he's going to say something like at the end of the night he comes home to you but sooner or later he's going to cheat. All he needs is a weak moment and too much to drink. He's able to drive you 2 hours to your aunt but that is not enough to amend his mistreatment of you. He can't really defend his behavior as something that passionate Europeans do and British people are just too uptight. No I won't accept that.
People have rows when they have a disagreement on money, how to raise kids, needs not being met but when things are resolved they let the issues go. The reason why you can't stop thinking about it is because your boyfriend is acting like he is single. You don't feel like a team. You feel like he is just saying the right things to keep you quiet this time and then he's continuing with his flirty behavior and neglecting you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2015): I absolutely think you should talk to him about the argument and the things that were said.
Always speak up when things are on your mind. You two need to completely bury the issue.
Speak to him calmly about his flirting and ask him to tone it down. Nothing is wrong with him having friends that are women and there is nothing wrong with him chatting and having fun with his friends.
However, him getting physical would be too much for me to handle. See if he could eliminate grabbing them by their waist. As far as the kiss on the cheek, if it was truly a friendly kiss on the cheek I wouldn't worry, but if it is flirty then I would think that was weird.
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