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Do men like having their anus aroused during sex?

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Question - (25 January 2009) 8 Answers - (Newest, 2 April 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Me and my boyfriend have a great sex life and have recently started exploring each other a little more... by that I mean he will now finger my anus as well. Although I enjoy this I know I will never have anal sex because it does hurt a lot when attempted. What I'd like to know is men and women's views on a girl touching/playing with a guys anus...?

I know it's apparently a very nice feeling for a guy, equivalent to a woman's g spot some say? but some guys are really against being touched in that area.

I have noticed during sex that when I get close to his anus he groans louder and cums quicker, but does this actually mean he's enjoying it? I know I should talk to him about it, but I just thought I'd get people's opinions off here first, thanks x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2012):

even i like it a lot when my gf does it ......i dont know what it makes me feel but i enjoy it gf just did it once very nicely n i liked it . but i hesitate to ask her to do it again . What do u think is it normal for a guy ?

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A male reader, funkykev100 Canada +, writes (9 December 2009):

years ago, I bought a set of anal beads for my ex-girlfriend. she said it feels strange inside her. But could not describe whether it feels good or not.

So one day I decided to try this myself. And it turned to to be one amazing orgasm. Nothing feels like it before.

After reading many articles about men's g-spot, i came to realize it is normal for a guy to feel intense.

so ... i suggest you give it further try. i think he's not against it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2009):

it's many years i live with my girlfriend, and after few years of "normal", now sometimes she puts her finger up and i have to say that i like (and i do for her). i don't have orgasm from it, but i feel very exciting, and i don't feel hurt at all, but must not dry. you should try to do it for him; at the beginning he will feel maybe a little strange (do it, don't speak about it too much), and with the time he will ask you to do often.

good luck!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009):

Flynn 24...

dont worry i would never just "shove my finger up" ofcourse id be gentle and slow, i know myself how it can hurt, i just wanted to know if guys liked it...

thanks everyone x

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009):

Take it from a male point of view.

It is said to be pleasurable... it isn't.

How would you like it if your guy just shoved his fingers in your ass?

If you are gonna do it, then don't just do it. Give him a litle warning first and use lube.

Flynn 24

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009):


Yes, guys do love this. My boyfriend LOVES it when I do it, it may not be every time we have sex, but the every so often I use my finger or a butt plug and he says he has the most explosive orgasm ever. If he is groaning louder, then you should continue until he pulls away. You'll know if he doesn't like it or want it.

Also, anal sex doesn't have to hurt. It used to hurt like hell for me too, but I learnt how to do it so it's not so bad. Try doing it in the tub, the warm water is very relaxing. Also, start out doing it doggy style, with tooooonnnnssss of lube, and as your bf is starting to put it in, get him to stroke your back, up and down and it really helps you relax. And once its in, go at your own pace and push yourself back into him so you can control the situation. Make sure he's gentle, and communicate whether hes going too fast or hard. It can actually be quite nice, once your used to it. :)

Good luck!

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A female reader, :)31215 United Kingdom +, writes (25 January 2009):

:)31215 agony auntomg thats just the same situation I'm in, except I haven't had the courage to actually do it yet... maybe I should..hehe

I think your boyfriend does like it beings as he is groaning louder!

If you don't wanna ask our-right, just mumble under your breath in his ear something like "do you like that?"

A bit of dirty talk never goes wrong ;)

have fun,


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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2009):

Surely he enjoys it from what you describe. I think it can be a very pleasant experience for him and you alike and you can precede it by licking or gently rubbing of his anus to help your partner relax. It's definitely a male hot spot since you can stimulate the prostate from inside the anus which renders the pleasant sensations. This should always be done gently! There is no inconvenient if good hygiene is ensured and I think it shows you see your partner as beautiful from head to toe. Not all men are comfortable with the idea but they might as well experiment to be with full knowledge of the case when they decide whether they like it or not.

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