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anonymous
writes:hey there, well i have been friends with this guy a few years ago, then we lost contact,(at school) and since a year ago we've become bestfriends. We have been there for each other so many times in situations, and hes just great. I never thought i would fall for him but i think i may have. Trouble is ( and i feel like a bad person) is that i wouldnt normally be attracted to him physically. But lately little things and quirks he does make me smile and i do i think? I dont know. Well he and I slow danced a few weeks ago at a ball. It was great, his hand on my waist, mine on his shoulder/neck and our other hands together (as you do in a slow dance haha) It was a really nice moment. The next night, he messaged me and asked him if i liked dancing with him , to which i said yes, because i did. Then i said "how about you?" and he said "Yeah, it was really nice" and then he said it was one of the highlights of the night, (was for me too haha); and then apparently there was a rumour going round that he and I were gunna hookup later that night. I didnt know what to say to that so i asked who said it and he told me, then we both said goodnight and went to sleep. When we were dancing i think i might have felt a spark. I think he did too. But im so confused because like i said before, hes my bestfriend. and lately i have had these dreams where we are together, and sometimes i can picture it in my head. Like, when he doesnt reply to a text within an hour or so, i think "Oh man, hes probably talking to someone better" and he does subtle things to flirt with me at school. I am so confused and i dont know what to do. Do i tell him? do i tell a friend? ahhhh no idea. I wouldnt want to lose him. And I feel like a bad person for what i said before. but I constantly go back and forth thinking "I do like him, I dont like him" Help please :( xxx
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reader, Zizzy  +, writes (16 June 2014):
It's a fear with many, that if you tell your best friend you have romantic feelings for him or her, it destroys the friendship once rejection occurs. You're not a bad person for having those thoughts. If he really cares about you, he would still want to be in your life, whether he feels the same way or not. There could be a possibility that he says something like "I feel the same way, but I was so nervous about telling you because I wasn't sure how you would feel." From your question I can see a bit of a spark between you two. Unless I'm misinterpreting things. If you take that next step and it doesn't work out, then don't blame yourself for the outcome. Good luck. :)
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