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writes:I'm 18 years old and I'm very confused lately, confused about everything. I'm not sure what I want out of life. First I think that I'm in love with my boyfriend who is 9 years older then me, then at a party I got the feeling that I still got a crush on my old crush who is one of my best friends... Is this normal for my age, will it get better, or is there something wrong with me?!
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reader, butterfly0916  +, writes (1 November 2009):
 Yes its normal=]
i myself am around that age and most of the time i don't know what i want!!!!
Then again at what age do you know what you really want i know people who are like in their 40's and they don't know what to do in their lives,what to feel toward someone....hey i believe that throughout all your lifespan..you are forever to be confused,always learning something new everyday you know what i mean???
hope you have a good day=]
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reader, FoX15 +, writes (27 October 2009):
So, this is just normal. It has nothing to do with your age. I mean, you can have feelings for more than one person. It could just be a physical attraction. And I mean, at 18, you're finishing high school, wondering where to go next, of course you're confused. When i graduated early, I was the same way. But I just followed my heart and what felt right to me. Just remember you're still young, you got a whole life ahead of you, and really whats going on now, won't matter. I mean, I was so in love with this one guy, but now i look back at him and his life, and I'm like Whoa I totally dodged a bullet there! And now well, I'm dodging bullets again, but theres also this one guy in my life who just makes my day, even if I just think about him. Life goes on, and everything will get better.
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reader, quiet-echo  + ♥, writes (27 October 2009):
 You sound perfectly normal to me. What you're going through is not really attributed to age.
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reader, CaringGuy  + ♥, writes (27 October 2009):
You're a perfectly normal lady. Nearly everyone reaches 18 and has a crisis. You're about to become an adult and your life is going to change in a lot of ways. You'll suddenly have much more independence, you'll have to plan your future carefully, you'll have to make a lot of decisions and take far more responsibility. But the good news is this does get better. You'll feel this way for a few years, until you have a better idea of where you're going, and you've given yourself time for your emotions to calm down. Take each issue one by one. First of all, it sounds like your relationship needs a bit of effort putting into it. You say you think you're in love with your boyfriend? that makes it sound as if you're not sure whether he's the one. I would suggest looking at that and perhaps putting some more time into it, to make sure it doens't go wrong. Also, if you're not sure about what you want out of life, really think about it. What do you want to do? Is there a career that really interests you. Much of what happens in your future will be because of what you plan now. Give yourself time, listen to your heart and start to plan your life. It will get better.
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