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writes:my boyfriend and i get into little arguments once in awhile. we've been together for 7 months. it usually starts because of something he does or say that just irritates me. and the way i deal with it is just not talking to him. i know that's unfair to him. but, this can go on for a couple of days. it's like, something in me wants to see how long both of us will go. or i want to see how long he can go before he initiates conversation again. i don't know why i do it.my pride really gets in the way. and this time, i learned to swallow my pride and apologize. he just acknowledge my apology and i haven't talked to him since then. that was three days ago. this is the longest we've gone without talking. i know the right thing to do would be just to be honest and tell him how i feel. let him know i miss him. but my stupid pride won't let me. i can't help but think "fine, if you're not gonna talk to me, i won't talk to you either." it's like this game or something. and i don't know why i do it.i know i'm risking our relationship and he might get fed up and i might lose him for good. so why can't i just swallow my pride and talk to him? is my pride that important? does it mean that i don't really love my boyfriend?help please.
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reader, BadAsh6705 +, writes (11 November 2008):
 I think you just need to figure out how to express your feelings better. Instead of cutting him off when your mad, take a deep breath and just stop for a second and try to think clearly about why you are mad and be as short and simple as possible.
One thing that is essential to relationships is COMMUNICATION you have to learn how to talk about things or you will never get anywhere in a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008): I'm the same with you. I have a lot of pride and I don't like to show my weakness.
But you're going to have to start changing your attitude. It's not about the guy, it's more like a personal issue. If you don't start to make more effort in maintaining the relationship, he WILL get fed up and walk away one day. And this may happen to you with a different guy.
If he feels like he can't please you all the time, neither of you will be happy in the relationship. I think maybe you both need to work on communicating. Remember, relationships are about give and take.
I am also learning. You can do it once you start trying. :)
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