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writes: im a lesbian and a few months ago i got closer to my female housemate ive had a crush on for years, i never thought anything would happen because she had a boyfriend (who we also live with) and said she was straightso i could understand and this was no problem until a couple of months ago she told me she fancied me (the only girl she ever fancied)and then a few weeks later she split up with her boyfriend because she wasn't happy in the relationshipi supported her through this, and we had a great time- she said she was happier without him and we were having a great laugh (altho she still has feelings for him)and i told her how much i liked her too, we are so incredibly close, and now have the best friendship ever.but now im having trouble with not being able to be with her because i like her so much and she likes me- its hard now because i have hope- before i didn'ther reasons for not being with me are first that it would be hard for her ex who we live with, shes scared of a relationship with a women, and wouldn't wanna risk losing me as a friend.but there is so much sexual tension there and flirting and she makes me feel whole when im with herwhat should i do, pursue it or back off? and how do i deal with not being to be together? the worst thing is i know she wants me
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reader, Becks +, writes (26 January 2006):
 hiya i honestly think that there is something more there than friendship between you, she wouldn't have said she fancies you or spilt up with her boyfriend.
It must be hard for you to have let go of a secrete, i suppose that you have kept to yourself for so long, but go with ya gut.
She definately needs time to get over her boyfriend and get to grips with how she feels. Best way is baby steps just be there for her give her space when she needs it and talk to her and listen to her honestly. It will take time but if you feel that you could make a go of it then it will all be worth it.
all the best
becks
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reader, kt  +, writes (20 January 2006):
 hi,
if i was you i would wait. she sounds scared and she does no what she wants. just wait untill she does make mind up. do not presure her. if she doesn't want it to happen and you do presure her you could end up drifting appart. just stay friends with her and be there for her. makeing her mind up about somthing like this will be hard and scary, and she will need you there for her.
good luck!!
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