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Do I message my crush?

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Question - (18 February 2018) 5 Answers - (Newest, 20 February 2018)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I am single and have a big crush on a local comedian infact my ex and I would often go and watch him at the comedy club.

I started to follow him on Instagram and he followed me back. I have 'liked a few of his pics and he 'liked' one of mine. It was one in a recording studio not a selfie or anything.

I know this doesn't account for much just setting the scene. From our profiles we have so much of the same interests and I've looked through his pics no mention of a wife or girlfriend just a dog and 2 older children who he seems to see at weekends.

It's not often I have a crush on anyone.. I just wondered do I message him and if so what do I say without looking like a desperate stalker or do i post something on one of his next pictures hinting I like him

He's not a massive celeb hes quite local and guys who make you laugh are the best.

Apologies if i sound like a silly fan. I am in danger of crashing and burning and alienating him here but in the same token what if he is single.. i'd just be a girl asking a guy on a date?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2018):

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So He posted a dog pic I put a comment on it and I got no reply. Ha. So there you go :( atleast I know

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2018):

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Ok. Am thinking about this now as my original way of thinking was you only live once and I don't do these crushes this is a localish guy who I'm Am attracted to and on the face of it we have much of the same interests. Here is what i was thinking then. You see he regularly puts pics of his dog when he's out for walkies, both my dogs died last year how about I put a comment on about what a happy dog i miss taking mine for walkies (not going into detail) and thst I even miss poop scooping something silly like that surely from that he may ask or message me if there was any chance he likes me. He doesn't get alot of comments on his pics so if i get no response from that I'll know?

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A male reader, Been there Now over it United States +, writes (19 February 2018):

I would follow up on this but keep it very low-key. Message him, asking for his show schedule and telling him what jokes or skits he's done that you particularly like and would appreciate seeing more of. If you have a really good one you can suggest he perform, that may be all the better. Make sure to reference your to reference your photo but be low-key in how you go about it. If you rarely crush on someone, you really don't want this fellow to slip thru your fingers without trying. This is be successful you have to knock on the opportunity's door and bring some attention to yourself.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2018):

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Thankyou. I never thought of it that way but you are right its such an extreme thing to do. Feel abit silly now but you've stopped me from looking like a stalker and I'm sure he has plenty. I've looked he had close to 5 thousand followers and follows a thousand. I guess am probably not over bring dumped just being abit silly. I really appreciate the advice

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (18 February 2018):

Honeypie agony auntDon't.

He IS a stranger to you. It doesn't matter that you "follow" each other on Instagram or whatnot or that you have been to his shows. YOU DO NOT KNOW HIM. He probably have 1,000's of followers.

Have you ever exchanged a single word in person?

If not... why would you ask him out?

TO me this is like a celeb-crush. YOU like the persona he "sells" on social media and on stage. But this may not be who he really is.

To me, it's a little like the scary obsessed fans some celebs have... I know you are not stalking him or anything but... no.

That would be my advice. No.

If you have gotten to meet him and ACTUALLY had a conversation face to face, I can see suggesting going for a coffee or what not... but a total stranger? No.

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