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*lorious.Glo
writes:Hi everyone I need your advice, I was dating T from Italy while I am staying in South Africa for 4 years, in that 4 years we saw eachother a couple of times when he came to see me in SA, like not more than 5 times in that 4 years, so we hardly spent time together.Basicaly I dont know him apart from speaking to him on the cellphone and the internet, we are both christians.This year I broke up with him due to the strain of distance, I felt it was too much for me as I told him earlier on but He said it will be alright but broke up with him anyway.Then I met this other guy at work and we dated and really got excited as I saw him everyday and spent time with him, even lost my virginity to this new one, after an arguement we broke up, but stayed friends.Italy guy sent me an email and we tried to fix things and I told him I am no longer a virgin.He said he forgives me and wants to marry me, so now I feel like I dont know that italian guy so like Getting married to him now is such a huge step, and he wants us to stay in Italy cause he has a business there and I will look for a job there.I still see the south african guy here and we do chat but not dating, he is a caring guy and knows me, He asked if I was ready to be married to someone I hardly knew? And I just kept quiet, I have already told my family that T and I are back together.I need help
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reader, Glorious.Glo +, writes (26 November 2015):
Glorious.Glo is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank u so much, I really appreciated it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2015): Move to a different country, marry someone you do not know...
It is never a good plan to marry someone you do not really know. You should start as friends until you really know him. Look at your SA friend - did you really know him well before you got in bed with him?? Look how quickly that ended.
Your intuition is telling you that you do not really know Mr. T. From what you have said here there is not enough to agree to marry him. Maybe ask him to give you enough money to live in Italy for a year while you get to know him and also a return ticket to SA in case it does not work out. Not to live with him or give him any "benefits" either. See if he loves you that much.
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