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writes:I have been seeing a girl for around 4 months, spending literally every day with her since I met her. I got involved knowing that she had a boyfriend thinking it would all be ok. We text each other whenever we are apart and it started out just messing around and hanging out. We get on really well and things were going well. We had talked about her breaking up with her boyfriend but she always said it would have to be when she was ready which I could understand. A few days ago he broke up with her, (nothing to do with me) and she was very upset. The next day she came to stay with me for a few days and everything seemed ok. We have been talking and texting (nowhere near as much as we had). She now says she wants to be single for a bit and that she doesn't want me to be the rebound guy. Since she broke up with her boyfriend she hasn't told me she loves me or anything (which we previously did all the time) but it has only been about a week.Although the easy thing is to say dont get involved I do love this girl but what should I do? Do I be the nice guy, let her do what she wants (sleep with whoever) and give her time to see what she wants? I am really confused and I know I do still want to be with her and it upsets me to think of her with someone else. Is it basically over for us?Thank you.
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reader, Advice_man  +, writes (7 January 2011):
 Oh my God, i don't believe i am reading this my friend. I don't want to be cruel, but no man with a little dignity and self respect would possibly tolerate such attitude!!! Be a man!! Get up and leave! You are better off just by yourself rather than with a woman than shows no respect. Be strong and do the right thing. Best of luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2011): Sorry to say but the only reason she is now single is because he dumped her. If he hadn't i'm guessing she'd still be with her ex boyfriend.
You were seeing each other behind his back and she probably found that a bit exciting. I don't think she had any intention of breaking up with her ex at all and her being so upset when he dumped her just shows that.
I think she just wanted a bit of fun with you and now she's single there's no reason to keep seeing you because the forbidden part of your relationship isn't there now.
She's single now and is free to do what she likes. If she wanted to be in a relationship with you she would be but she is not.
I think you need to open your eyes and see things as they really are. She has no intention of being in a relationship with you.
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