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female
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30-35,
*eyna
writes:Hi, i want some advice on this. I have been dating a guy for about 5 months and we are pretty good to each other, he has told me he has started to feel something special for me and i am starting to feel something for him, too. Before we started dated, we both left our ex's about 2 weeks before we met each other, so at the beginning of the relationship we were dealing with ex drama, but we were both sure that we weren't going back to those people so we decided to go serious. I am really glad we are together, and i can feel that he is happy too, the thing is that in the period of time that we have dated, there has been these situations where he gets a little distant, so much that the last time we kind of broke up but then he tried to fix everything. It is really weird because he is acting all right, then one day he wakes up and does something a little odd, like last time, he said he wanted to go out to a club by himself, like he used to when he was single. I got annoyed because i thought that was out of nowhere, and then we started arguing about how selfish he was and that i hate the game playing. At the end i left because i didnt want to end up in a bigger argument. The next day i called him and we talked, i asked him what did he wanted to do, and he said that he didnt know what he wanted, i said right now or in general, and he replied "in general" , then he said he doenst want to control me, because no matter what he wants, at the end i will do what i feel like doing :(. I am not sure how to take that, but i assume he is not feeling 100% about our relationship. So my question is, what should i do? Do i leave this guy or should i give him a try? I have no idea what is going on, i know i want to make this relationship work, but if he is going to be treating me with lukewarm feelings, i prefer to walk, because i know im way passed the "not caring" phase, my heart is at stake here :( Thanks in advance
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave  +, writes (7 November 2010):
My gut feeling is that your heart is in the relationship but his isn't.
It seems like he is not being totally open with you for whatever reason.
You are still in the early stages and if you are going to break it off, do it sooner than later as further down the line you will be more hurt.
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