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writes:I need to know if I have the right to be angry.Whats Happened:I was supposed to be going my boyfriend's this weekend to spend some time with him. Friday I would go to his, Saturday we would go bowling with friends and then back to his and then Sunday would be a getting sorted for college on Monday. Now, he said I couldn't go Friday because he was painting his room and I was like, okay that's understandable. He'd be tired. So all today I couldn't get hold of him to find out a time for bowling tomorrow. Instead I find out from his younger brother that he has a friend round. I'll refer to this friend as Pete. He's also going to be sleeping over Pete's house tomorrow after bowling, meaning I won't have alone time with him all weekend.Why I'm Angry About It:He told me I couldn't go around today(Friday) because he was painting his room. He then has a friend over. Me and Pete have history, we don't get on. I find him very obsessive over my boyfriend and has caused us to argue in the past. I have had suspicions that Pete is indeed gay, just because of the way he is with my boyfriend. Put it this way, if Pete was a girl I would not accept his behavior. Also I don't see my boyfriend all week because of college so the weekend is the only time I get to see him. I feel really disappointed and blown off in a way. I'm angry about it, I phoned him up and he just put the phone down before we had an argument. My boyfriend was also going on about having sex all week and how does he expect us too if he doesn't allow me to have any alone time with him?I don't now how I'm supposed to deal with this. Also Pete will be very obnoxious towards me, he acts like he scores points when me and my boyfriend fall out over him. He gets really smug and cocky against me. Even other of my boyfriends friends has said the way Pete is towards me is just to try and piss me off.So do I have a right to be angry? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2012): If "Pete" is indeed gay, then it sounds like he's after your guy and likes that he has power over you. He enjoys the fact that on his word he can cause you and your guy to fall out whilst still being close with him. If he isn't gay, then he's jealous, he doesn't want you with his friend. You have every right to be angry, not only did he blow you off, but he lied to you About it, you need to explain to your guy how this makes you feel, that he's willing to drop all plans on the spot for this one guy, without giving a though to how you feel? He's not being a very good boyfriend. I don't want to worry you, but I read a true story once, this girl was with a guy and his "best friend" always came between them, "best friend" hated her though she'd done nothing to him, one day she caught them together after he'd cancelled on her, "best friend" was really "jealous gay partner". The boyfriend explained how ashamed he was to be gay so went out with her so no one would know. You need to sort this out, because though that's probably not what's going on here, if "Pete" is gay and after your guy, and your guy finds out about this, ask your self honestly, who will he choose? Show him who his priority in your relationship should be and get rid of the third member before he ruins it. I hope this helps you to decide what you should do
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2012): Yes you have every right to be angry any woman would be I would talk to him and explain to him how you feel keeping in to yourself will only make you feel worse
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (20 January 2012):
 You DO have a right to be angry. The only question - as I see things - is do you WANT to be angry? .... and, is this guy WORTH the anger????
Good luck....
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 January 2012):
 I would be angry that he changes plans on you like that and more angry that he lied (said he was painting his room but had friends over instead) to me it shows little regards for you and little inclination to wanting to spend time with you.
I think it was good you didn't call him while "Pete" was at his place. This I think is something best discussed face to face, with no one else around.
I understand you don't like "Pete" but honestly, he isn't the one cause the trouble, your BF is.
So I would suggest you talk to your BF calmly and if he doesn't get it, then I would honestly assume that he isn't all that interested in spending time alone.
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