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Do I have a problem? I'm too scared to go to the doctor and afraid to talk to my parents

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Question - (8 February 2010) 1 Answers - (Newest, 8 February 2010)
A female India age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Hello doctor ,

I'm 20 year old. I bleed when my guy fingers this happens rare not all the time but when it happens i have problem with my menstural cycle. i never had sexual intercourse before i dont even know whether the hymen is broken or not. if he fingers the next day i bleed. the color is some thing like brown or red mixed with white discharge or some times red like blood or else im normal like others girls even if he fingers i dont bleed. From the time i got periods i never had heavy flow. my peroids will go for 8 days 1st 3 days i have normal flow but it ends very slowly with few drops. i get my periods regularly if i dont have this problem . i got fingered 4 years back for the first time and i faced same problem so i stopped having sexual relationship. i was normal so 3 years back again i got fingered but nothing happened but once or twice in year i face this problem. Im very weak i do agree i dont take food properly. im very shy to talk to a doctor face to face , cant tell to my parents as it is sexualy related and scared if i have some serious problem.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2010):

Hello there,

I'm not a doctor, but I am a medical student a year away from graduation.

I must admit, I'm not convinced your problem is related to sex at all.

When you get fingered though, it moves your uterus, which could be triggering some contractions.

This can also happen to women when they go for very hard runs, or do strenuous excercise, they can have a very small bloody discharge, which is brown when it's older blood and red when it's "fresher".

I don't think the bleeding is caused by the fingering in the sense that it isn't damaging you in any way. You have to remember that your vagina and uterus are strong muscles designed to push out a baby, fingers can't do much damage to that.

I'm worried about you saying that you stopped having sexual relations because of this, you really need to do something about it.

There's nothing anyone could do for you over the internet, you need to go and see a doctor face to face, tell him about this, use the "strenuous excercise story" if you're very embarassed about mentioning sex (remember though that doctors are bound by confidentiality and believe me, shoking stories are everyday buisness, and yours is nothing to be embarassed about AT ALL.)

Seeing as you're 20, it would be a good idea even if you are still a virgin, to have yourself examined anyway, if only to reassure yourself and know what it's like to have one.

So in summary, not directly linked to fingering (ask your guy to go a little easier than he is, that'll probably help), be brave and go see a doctor to make sure nothing else is going on, and for god's sake eat properly!

Good luck!!

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