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writes:I am in a relationship with a man whos wife left him for another man and they set up home together, with a very large sum of money given by my b/f and this was half of the proceeds of their house so she could by herself and the b/f something. She took their daughters. He was devastated. I was introduced to him to be somewhat of a counsellor to him. I listened to him and for 3 years we bonded a lovely friendly relationship. This moved further on, only a year ago. The problem is his wifes b/f died, only 9 months of being together and she is now alone. She constantly rings him, texts him asks him over and still has keys to the house they both shared. He told me not to ask him to give up their friendship as he wont. He claims her to be a lovely friend! They do not sleep together and still live separately. The needyness of her has become worse since she found out about me, which was only 6 months ago. I am so unhappy about this all, Do I just stand to one side and leave them to get on with it or do I fight my corner and stay with him? Do you think they will eventually get back together again? They were married for 35 years with daughters 22 and 18. I would appreciate any advice especially from other men who may understand better how he feels.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 July 2010):
Hmmmm. I honestly couldn't say at this time for sure whether he will go back or not. I would say that the chances are he won't. It's been three years since she left, and her boyfriend died only 9 months later. So that means that in two years they haven't got back together in all that time. I would lean towards saying that he won't, and that she really is just a friend now.
That said, you can't sit there and be unhappy all the time. I think you need to speak to your boyfriend, and just explain that yo're not asking him to give the friendship up, but that you are in need of reassurance. He owes you that. If he can't give that, then you're with the wrong man.
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