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Do I cut his cell phone off or let him keep paying for it?

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Question - (28 February 2007) 9 Answers - (Newest, 1 March 2007)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

when me and my ex boyfriend were together-i added him a cell phone line to my account.we broke up 2 months later.he pays his part of the bill on time every month still like he sussposed to. the thing is i just found out that he cheated on me with ALOT of girls when we were together.that makes me feel like i was being used. so....should i turn his cell phone off now that i know the truth or should i just leave it alone-after all he's still paying his part of the bill.HELP!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007):

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tghanx for the insight everybody.if he doesnt rwspond to me by the end of this week-his phone is off!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007):

That is still a link with you therefore he wants to keep that link going. It is up to you whether you want it to continue. I personally wouldn't. Just get rid.

Take care

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007):

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this morning i texted him and asked him did he want to do a credit check so he could get that line transfered over 2 his name and keep his same number and everything.well he responded"are you tryna get rid of me?" then he said-" was just joking" but i havent heard anything from him since.why is it so important for him to be on my line? i dont understand!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007):

cut it off now! i was in exactlt the same situation and my ex refused flatly to pay the bill for months! he used various ways to get round it from ignoring me to bullying me and using emotional blackmail and he left me with huge phone bills for his phone until i cut it off. he's paying you no respect in asking you to keep the phone on your account and you will find it harder to move on from him when you have to remain in contact due yo phone issues. do tou really wat to pay for him to call other girls

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A reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2007):

Stop the phone thing now, tell him to sort his own out. You two are finished so why have that link with him? cut the thing off and get completely away from him.

Take care

xx

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A female reader, appygal81 United States +, writes (28 February 2007):

appygal81 agony auntHe cheated on you ALOT....i say just cut the cell phone off. go and cancel that number. He is not deserving of you being nice to him as he obviously was not nice to you. Like the other aunts said, you could very well be up crap creek with out a paddle if he stops paying his portion of the bill. He could easily misuse and abuse the privelege you have given him....take it away!

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A female reader, stina United States +, writes (28 February 2007):

stina agony auntHello Anon,

I personally think that if you two aren't together then he shouldn't be listed as part of your plan regardless of if he cheated or not.

Because - like dragonette said - if he refuses to pay his portion of the bill at some point, then it's going to be up to you to pay it off since the plan is still in your name.

This doesn't seem like a good idea. And since the phone is part of your plan, I don't think you'd have to bring him along with you to the phone shop. Just tell them that you want his phone off of your plan and let your ex know what you're doing. But call the phone company first to make sure this can, in fact, be done.

Plus - do you really want to be reminded of the ex who constantly cheated on you every time you go to pay your phone bill? I know I wouldn't want that for myself... It's bad enough that it happened during your relationship - why should you be reminded about it until your phone plan ends?

Take care.

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A female reader, dragonette Sweden +, writes (28 February 2007):

dragonette agony auntPersonally, I would not hold myself economically responsible for a cellphone of somebody I was not in a relationship with. What happens if he runs up a bill of 100£ and refuses to pay it? Then you're probably responsible by contract to pay that.

If I were in your shoes I would get in touch with my ex and go together with him to the cellularcompany (they probably have a shop where they're represented) and ask to have his number transfered to his name.

If that's not a possibility, then by all means, cut the line.

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A female reader, been_there +, writes (28 February 2007):

been_there agony auntthe right and moral thing to do would be to let him keep paying his bill and let him keep the rental as long as he keeps up with payments. after all u2 arent together anymore sowhat he's done is nothing to do with u. howwwwwwever, I would probably cut off his line out of spite and as a form of revenge- not the best thing but id feel abit even at some of the hurt would be gone lol

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