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Do all men masturbate even if they have frequent sex?

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Question - (8 June 2009) 16 Answers - (Newest, 12 June 2009)
A female United States age 26-29, *il momma writes:

do all men masturbate even if you have frequent sex? my boyfriend does fairly often, and it makes me feel very insecure, unattractive, un needed,and unwanted.(should it make me feel that way?) he says he loves me and wants us to be together. he also says he is satisfied with me but i just cant believe him.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009):

Hey, I am 40 years old and still feel the urge to masturbate all the time. It's just a release for us men, it has nothing to do with you.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2009):

its normal babe dont feel bad.doesnt mean you arent pleasing him enough x

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009):

I think you should not be worried as the feeling is just too good to ignore, you should know, most married men masturbate and that you are definitely providing for him, it is just quite good feeling and addicting, especially for a teenager or someone in their early twenties

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A female reader, lil momma United States +, writes (10 June 2009):

lil momma is verified as being by the original poster of the question

thank you for all the replies honestly they have helped our relationship tremendously after i realized that it wasnt that im not pleasing him but its a just a natural thing. i dont feel like i did thanks to you all!!!

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2009):

I don't know about all, but definitely most men do. It's not a judgement on you, honey, it's just something we do. Even after decades of a happy marriage, most men still masturbate regularly. And all my girlfriends have said that they enjoy masturbating too (although they were a bit shy about admitting it). I would be really angry if my partner was cheating on me, but the thought of her masturbating is kind of sexy. And don't think you're getting any less because he's masturbating: the more you use your penis, the more you want to use it. I hope this makes you feel a bit better.

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A female reader, lil momma United States +, writes (9 June 2009):

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ok thanks for the answers i feel a lot better now thati understand most men do it at some point. and that he isnt comparing me to other women or wanting other women.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009):

Why would not masturbating by yourself make you a bad person? I don't think that anyone said anything like that.

Men who get enough sex don't masturbate. If my wife had wanted sex 3 times a day when we were younger then I would not have done it either. She didn't do it when she was with me because she got all the sex she wanted. She did it when she didn't have a boyfriend or didn't see one very often. I don't do it now that I am older because I get all the sex that I can handle at my age.

There is no right or wrong about how many times a person masturbates or if they do it at all. It is just a natural thing to do. Go stand in front of the monkey cage at the zoo for long enough and you will see that it is more than a human thing. Humans came from the same beginning millions of years ago, so it has been going on for a very long time.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2009):

from a guy...

At your age, most men masturbate some and it has nothing to do with you. Guys with some of the most beautiful, sexual women in the world, still masturbate some.

Remember, first we are animals and only after that are we human. If there was a way to know, and I'm glad there isnot, I would conjecture that even people like Brad Pitt, Obama, Gordon Brown, Tom Cruise do it every now and then. The orgasm that results feels good for a few seconds and it relieves tension. I assure you it is not a substitute for you.

You didn't say, but most guys also look at porn from time to time. They are merely entertaining themselves and not comparing you to anybody.

I know both are irritating to women but you are comparing apples to bricks. He loves you. All of that other is nothing but cheap entertainment.

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A female reader, lil momma United States +, writes (9 June 2009):

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i dont do anything without him here to do it for me. does that make me a bad person that i dont play without him

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009):

Here is another discussion on this same subject:

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-does-my-boyfriend-betray-me-by-masturbating.html

and here:

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/we-have-sex-3-times-a-week-how.html

there are also dozens of others.

The reason is that most guys could have sex 3 or 4 times a day, while most women are satisfied with sex once a day. It is not completely just a sexual thing for us guys. It is also a form of stress relief. It helps to think of sex while doing it, but the end result is that it ends in a feeling of relaxation.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009):

Is he a good lover? Does he make sure that you're taken care of? If so, he might just need some purely selfish release once in a while. Not have to worry about whether it was good for you, too.

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A male reader, rocknroll United States +, writes (8 June 2009):

If your partner is as interested in sex as thy self, then there is no need for masterbating.

People are purely unqiue individuals. We cannot dictate or map their behaviors for every second of life; we resemble nature very much.

There are so many factors; grief; anger; fear; depression, could bring on either chemical or physical reactions that we mentally decide for sexual relief, whether with a partner or masterbating. It isn't clear cut. Then we make it clear cut, black and white, we begin to sabotage our relationships.

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A male reader, Harry Castle United Kingdom +, writes (8 June 2009):

Harry Castle agony auntHow do you know he isn't thinking of you when he does it?

Perfectly normal, and a release from sexual tension when you aren't around, so please don't worry, it doesn't mean he loves you less.

Don't you ever "play"?

Does that mean you've gone off him? Of course not.

Harry.

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A male reader, Kolinsky United Kingdom +, writes (8 June 2009):

Whilst I have no experience is the bed acrobatics, I can tell you that probably 99% of the world masturbates. Frequency depends, but I should say that we all do it.

A really good friend of mine has an amazingly hot girlfriend, but he tells me that he still feels the need to masturbate once in a while. So do not take this personally. It has nothing to do with you,

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009):

no need to bother Darling

many men masterbate even if they are completely attached and inlove with their spouses

i never cheated on my wife and i dont want to cheat and we are having a fine sexual life but i masterbate every day..

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2009):

you shouldnt feel this is your fault. I dont think there is anything wrong with you. Men have needs and even if they do have frequent sex its just a little extra release. I cant see it being anything else. Maybe just talk to him about it.

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