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Difficulty with intercourse

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Question - (18 April 2013) 4 Answers - (Newest, 20 April 2013)
A female India age 30-35, *oulika writes:

My Vagina is too small and penis not getting in to this. When try to push it feeling burning sensation. Kindly suggest what should I do now..

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (20 April 2013):

DoubleM agony auntUnless there is some very unusual physical abnormality, a vagina too small or tight for intercourse is extremely unlikely. As previously suggested, adequate foreplay, perhaps with the aid of lubricant, should allow intercourse. Patience on the part of both partners may also help.

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A female reader, HeresBoo Australia +, writes (19 April 2013):

HeresBoo agony auntDefinitely use lubricant and prepare with a lot of foreplay to prepare you body for sex, so you can relax. Nerves can stop girls from putting even a tampon in, let alone a penis.

Make sure you're comfortable and lubricated and ease your way into it :)

Best of luck

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (19 April 2013):

If you're not a virgin. Just check with your gynecologist to make sure there are no abnormalities or physiological issues.

Your partner may not be giving you enough time to relax before penetration, and you may be tensing up out of fear of the pain of entry. He should be gentle and gradual.

Some men are very well endowed, and they have to especially gentle with women anatomically smaller. If he is too eager, or enjoys being rough, that could be the source of your discomfort. Your question suggests that you are not experienced and he should be patient and more gentle. He could attempt penetration before he is fully erect, and allow you to accommodate entry very slowly.

Lubrication and slowly inserting a finger first, gets you

prepped and helps you to mentally prepare. If your partner is greedy and selfish, he is ignoring his responsibility to make sure the experience is pleasurable for both of you.

You may not be comfortable about having sex with this man, and tensing up because you are not really ready. Don't be pressured to do anything until you're ready.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2013):

Use lube maybe? Just go slowly. I'm assuming you're a virgin? It will need to stretch a lot that's why it feels like a burning sensation. It does hurt a lot for some people and there's not too much you can do about it, just go really slowly, stop if you need to, maybe try again on a different day.

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