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writes:I recently got into a relationship with a guy. Although he is much older than I am, I often have to instruct him in proper behavior. This is anything from wearing a belt (so the top of his rear isn't showing) to making mature conversation (so he doesn't gross people out at dinner). He responds well to direction. I usually only have to mention a particular issue once. However, I feel like these are things he should already know.Is this sort of "training" normal/typical?Would you (as the "teacher") tolerate it? Reply to this Question
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reader, Gridrebel +, writes (2 February 2010):
 It isn't normal but do consider that all people aren't raised and "prepped" in the same social structure as yourself. Have you met his family? Also, he may have been exposed to proper etiquette but didn't feel the need to adopt the behavior while younger and maybe no one has demanded a more socially acceptable behavior and presentation from him until now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2010): He probably hasn't had the same education as you and it shows more than you would like.
Constantly having to teach the person you are with how to behave can be tiring and this means you wouldn't feel totally comfortable with him in new situations as you don't have a clue as how he will behave.
If you really like him and think you will be able to put up with being his teacher then stick to it. Otherwise you should break it off now before it gets too serious cause you'll come to the conclusion that you've been wasting your precious time with someone who from the beginning was never right for you.
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