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writes:A girl that I just saw partly naked has a thick line of hair that leaves her navel and travels down to her private area. I wouldn't be so paranoid right now but she doesn't look too ladylike. . .as in she's not pretty. Someimes I even wonder if she use to be a guy. Maybe it's just my imagination but what's the deal with the thick patch of hair? Is it normal in some girl. I told her to cut it because it's really scaring the crap out of me but she says that everytime she does, it grows back even thicker. Reply to this Question |
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reader, birdynumnums  + ♥, writes (9 September 2009):
 That's called called "Catch and Release"...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOKAY. I get it. Never judge a women by the amount of hair that grows from her body, no matter how wierd the location is. I have no obligation to apologize to her. It was a simple question. I didn't see it as being insensitive. She didn't look offended. Infact, She's STILL trying to hit on me. I don't know. Maybe she likes a guy that speaks his mind with little regard to how the subject might feel toward the direct infliction. You know girls these day, always going after the bad boy.
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reader, birdynumnums + ♥, writes (8 September 2009):
It's not surprising that with all the airbrushing going on in Penthouse and Playboy, and the fact that most of the women in there have NO pubic hair at all, that you think that that is normal, if you haven't seen a lot of regular women.
It might surprise you to know that most of the women working in porn are pissed about High Definition and Blue Ray because they have a hard time with rashes in sensitive areas because of all the plucking, waxing and shaving they have to do, and there's not much that you can do to hide a rash in a close up shot...
The things that we do to conform to what society thinks women should look like. SHEESH.
I am of Irish decent, but if I were to go native, I would have two inches of hair growing down my thighs and a line halfway up to my navel. And Irish women aren't as hairy as Indian or Greek women, who often have wax their arms and sideburns if they have them.
It's not because of a "disease", it's genetic and normal body hair, and the older women get, the hairier they get.
Frankly, this is the kind of feedback that makes us freak out about the naturalness of our own bodies. You just are being really naive and quite insensitive to this woman. I suggest going to a German based hotel chain down in the Canary Islands if you want to see a bunch of natural women, with hair sticking out of their bikini bottoms, the way nature intended it.
I'm kind of on the side of the people who have yelled at you. You just saw a natural woman who didn't shave or wax for you - but she at least liked YOU enough to let you see her naked! And for that she is damned by your slander and critique of her natural body - faint praise!!! And you 'won't do it again'? - I should think that not exposing her to your harsh and unworldly opinions would be the least that you should do to make this up to her!!!
You should apologize to her. Especially after the "she must have been a guy before"... That's so unfair and shows exactly how unobservant you are... You'd have your answer if she had BEEN a guy because there would be scars, which would be one hell of a lot more obvious than a lot of hair...
And that comment is so insensitive and offensive, just because you have no idea how hairy women truly are, you think that she could have been a guy. She would be devastated if you ever said that to her, so at least, redeem yourself by keeping that comment to yourself and NEVER mention it as gossip to anyone who is a mutual acquaintance. Sheesh.
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reader, dr.2.be + ♥, writes (7 September 2009):
 I understood your post as you said it and although I do agree that you did sound a little harsh, you are probably not an insensitive guy. You are just really blunt, curious, straight forward and want to know an answer to a question. While it is a little rude to ask someone about a less than attractive feature it doesn't automatically make you an a____le. I believe a____les are defined by muliple undesireable questions or actions that disrespect others, not just a single event (as I am only aware of one event and I can't pass judgement based on that). To answer your question, no she wasn't previously a man. All of us carry many, many, many genetic codes in our DNA that determine everything from the amont of freckles on our body and their locations to eye color to height to diseases to lung function, talent, voice and amount of body hair. While the horomones present in our body influence these traits as well, it is our DNA that primarily determines it, horomones just enhance it. In general people from countries far north (such as Germany, Poland, Switzerland, Russia, Sweeden, Norway) tend to have thinner lighter hair and little body hair. So because they have less and its not as thick, it will be less noticable whilst it still be present. People from Italy, Turkay, Spain, Greece and some countries in the middle east tend to have darker hair and thicker and sometimes more body hair.I see you are from the United States as well and here there is a lot of diversity and people who live in this country have come from all over the world. Perhaps this girl is of Italian, Turkish or middle eastern descent and therefore may have a greater quantity of body hair which may be thicker. This tends to be a dominant trait although it can vary so it is prominent in many people of this descent, depending on what other traits they possess.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your feedback, BeingMyself. Your words are much appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2009): Whilst I appreciate the fact you may have come across in a worse way than you intended to, I still disagree with the justification that "what someone doesn't know won't hurt them". Just because everyone makes mistakes doesn't make them right. I'm not necessarily talking about this particular situation, any more, but my point is that, in general, saying "that's just the way the world is" is hardly being very responsible. Perhaps I may sound like I'm taking this too seriously, but, in my experience, I've known people who seemed perfectly normal at the start that have ended up doing worse and worse things. Illegal things, even. And how did it come to that? They tried to justify every wrong thing they'd done and refused to admit they'd ever made mistakes, even the little ones. One thing leads to another. Where do you draw the line?I am not saying you are necessarily like that (i.e. trying to justify EVERY wrong thing you've done) but it's just my £0.02. I would at least advise you think about this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo BeingMyself. Yes, I agree, I did come of as a jerk in my original question. I'm no angel. But I also said no harm if she doesn't read this. Like the saying goes "What they don't know won't hurt them." Sorry to say it, but this is how the world is. I'm sure we've all gossiped once or twice before, or even said something about someone that would otherwise be considered disrespectful if that person heard it. No one is pure in the sense that they've never insulted anyone else, whether it be in front of them or out of ear reach, or if the insult was as small as a nose hair to as large as a physical defect. Thank you for correcting my gramatical error for BabyDuck to better understand. In future questions I'll make sure quote my sentences better. Also, I will make an effort to guide my words so that they sound a little less harsh toward the intened subject.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): @baby duck: To be fair, I think what he meant was this:he told the girl to cut it because (he only thought this and did not say it) it was scaring the crap out of himnothe told the girl something along the lines of "cut it because it's scaring the crap out me"which is grammatically correct.To the question asker: I would say, however, that you do sound disrespectful to the girl in your original question. What worries me is that you seem less concerned about your attitude to her than with trying to justify your question by saying that she'd never find out what you had said. I don't wish to sound harsh, but does that mean backbiting or cheating are alright, too, provided the person in question never finds out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUm. . .calm down, lady. I never said I told her "It was scaring the crap out of me." I said that in this question to express my personal feelings about it. All I asked her was "Do you shave that?" while nodding curiously towards her stomach. She replied "I try to but it just keeps growing back even thicker." while removng the rest of her clothing to jump into the pool. She was hitting on me. I was asking questions and I found one that I wanted answered. I'm sorry but I always speak my mind. I never directly called her unnatractive or even stated her thick patch of hair was grotesque. It was a one-liner question with a simple responce. It was left at that.I know I may have came off as a jerk with my original question. But worry not, the possibility of her reading this and coming back to me about it is less than zero percent. So no harm done. And just to clear things up a bit. I do not appreciated being called an "Idiot" or "Cretin" or "Callous ass". You my friend, have no business giving advise if you intend on being so unreasonably judgemental about the author.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell 'Baby Duck'. . .I've never been with a girl who had that much of a hairy stomach. In fact I've only dated three girls up until now and NONE of them had a patch of hair on their stomach. I never did say she was with me. I just said I saw her partly naked and noticed her thick line of hair. The only reason I was able to ask her to cut it was because she was hitting on me and all I was thinking of was her hairy stomach. With that issue out of the way, maybe I could have focused on other things.
To both female anonymous, I've had girlfriends as well as two sisters, but they never had that much hair if any. But I'm guessing my past girfriends must have shaved often if that's the case in most girls. I never did say I was attracted to her. Where did you read that, lol? I just said I saw her partly naked. I guess I should have said she came on to me which is why I was so paranoid about it.
Thank you, male anonymous. I'm definitely going to stop seeing her. . .without clothes. Maybe if she shaved then I wouldn't have to be so callous about it. Sorry, I just find that unnatractive. Like some girl that find guys who are balding unnatractive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): lol! I'm guessing you haven't had a girlfriend before, or have any sisters? A hairy stomach is nothing - lots of woman get moustaches.
Ok so they are not normally as big mens but most of my female friends have them. They shave them or dye them. Real women don't look like air brushed models you see in magazines.
I think you should appologise to this girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): It could be PCOS (Polycystic Ovary Syndrome) which is a common hormonal imbalance which causes masculine traits in women, including excessive body hair. A sympathetic partner would talk to her gently - you've broken the boudaries of discussing the subject so if she's unhappy with the hair, discuss electrolysis or another efficient hair removal technique.
But even without the hair, if you're not attracted to her, what are you doing fooling around with her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2009): Yes, she used to be a guy. I strongly suggest that you stop seeing her.For her sake.
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