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writes:I confessed my feelings to him and his response was interesting. At first he was quiet and then he held me and pulled me close to him. He never said anything back. His actions were very loving kisses holding and longing eye contact. He is very shy when we first started seeing each other I kissed him first. The next day after our first kiss he thanked me for making the first move. Now he hasn't said anything about what I said. I've fallen hard and deep inside I know he had too. We make love not just sex it's a connection I be feel it and after he says how lucky he is to have me in his life. Why no expression of feelings yet it's been 3 months is it too soon? Did I mess things up by telling him? Help? R
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2016): People communicate in different ways. he might not be the best with words. You could follow up by asking him how he feels about you.
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reader, WickedPoet +, writes (7 October 2016):
 But you have gotten an expression of his feelings and I think it's actually pretty reassuring at this point. He told you how lucky he feels that you are in his life, he holds you close, he maintains eye contact, he makes love to you. He is telling you clearly he cares a lot for you. There are many ways to say I love you. You want to hear the words and I understand that. We all want that eventually. But if you listen to the language of his movements you are being loved. There are lots of people who say the words but never come close to what you have right now. Just be patient and allow things to develop at their own pace. Learn to listen with your feelings as well as your ears. When he does what he does with you how do you feel? That is what he is telling you each time. Enjoy the ride. Far from messing things up by confessing your feelings, you unlocked his passion for you and gave him the permission to show you how he feels.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 October 2016):
 He might not be the best with words as he is shy, but his actions prove that he is in to you. I think you are over worrying and analyzing things. Just take it slow and enjoy how things are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2016): Maybe he's just a quiet guy and he was so happy he hugged you close. it's actually a really good sign because a guy that isn't into you would be horrified of your confession and then pull away and state that you guys are moving too fast and slowly he will do the fade (stop calling, stop setting up dates, etc)Also only way to know how he feels is, did he call you next day? Wants to see you again? Wants to make love to you again? All these are telltale guys. Men are all action, ignore what men say but watch what men do. A guy can promise you the world with his words and next day being sleeping around. A guy can be silent as an eagle but his actions can be full of love. Just watch what he does.Good luck =)
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reader, UniquelyMe  +, writes (6 October 2016):
 No you have done nothing wrong Hon. Believe it or not people are very different when it comes to emotions really. I know what you mean as it's only been 3 months is it too soon. My opinion is see it through because it sounds like he is a guy who is very shy and reserved when it comes to expressing feelings. If you think it will help you should sit down and talk to him about this. You never know it could open his emotions up. :) x
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