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writes:hi,i ve been in a relationship for the past one and a half years.. am in my prefinal year of my ug course right now,am my parents eldest son and my dad is getting retired next year so i am expected to be getting a job as soon as i finish my ug course.. now coming to my galfriend.. we both dont study much.. jus before the exams we touch our books..but we used to pass off with decent grades, lately i ve been getting arrears but she s the same...she s intelligent and she knows am tat an average student but she doesnt help me to study.. i didnt want this to continue.. cos i know many guys who are sittin at homes preparing for arrear exams while their galfriends work for MNCs.. i don wanna end up like them.. so i spoke to her.. said tat i need some time off the relationship till i complete my studies .. she also accepted my decision... but am feeling very lonely right now.. i don wanna go back to her.. but i miss her, i don ve any friends also,i dunno wat to do.. did i take the right decision??
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 July 2011):
 I agree with 'lizbetty' on this one. I think you made the wrong decision on this one. You are lonely now and you truly did not want to break up with your girlfriend. You both need to make a compromise somewhere. Instead of taking a break just spend less time together so you can have time for your studies.
Call her up and tell her you made a huge mistake and that you miss her. Just explain to her that you wont have as much time to spend with her now because you will be studying but that you don't want to lose her.
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reader, krit +, writes (5 July 2011):
 Okaay I get your point...but you had enough time to decide to whether you want any relationship at first place or not??No goin back but resposiblites should never be compromised at any cost at all. Well the race to just get into a good college is quite tough and tiresome let alone getting a job into MNC. Even when you finally reach there then also there won't any space or time to pursue your other dreams. So what excuse you would give then if you get into into a relationship with someone. You need to learn to use your time more efficiently. I'm sure both you and your gf get equal time after college to complete your studies. And when you hang out with her equal time is consumed of both. All relationships require time and effort same as studies to succed. But if can't put in effort then you will fail in both of them. You can't blame your gf or teacher for that . Have a open chat with her about how you feel about this. Going on a break would only create doubts in her mind.And yeah girls don't consider a guy with less grade then her any less worthy. Take it from me, that's the way we think not them. If you consider yourself average then I was actually below average and my gf was topper in her boards, then in college and will most provably remain same in her job also. She's beauty with brain and very hard working. And me lazy and disorganized as always. But she pushes me work hard to achieve my goals. So this way it has positive impact on my life...
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reader, LizBetty  +, writes (5 July 2011):
 To me i don't think giving the relationship a break is a good idea. I think you both should set a day you can meet and the other days for reading. I know you don't spend 24hrs reading becos it was said that all work without play make Jack a dull boy. Your decision was wrong,maybe you try to notify her in order for you both to see once in a while.
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