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Did I lose my virginity even if it only lasted for a few seconds??

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Question - (2 December 2007) 7 Answers - (Newest, 13 December 2007)
A male Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

OK so I'm wondering if I am a virgin or not.

I hooked up with a girl, and I was drunk so I had a hard time getting an erection, anyways I got it up for a few seconds, and so I put it inside of her and penetrated her, but only for a couple seconds before the booze kicked back in.

So I'm not sure if that counts as losing my virginity or not seeing as to how neither of us climaxed and it only lasted a couple seconds.

What do you think? Any answers are appreciated.

Thanks.

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A male reader, Lewiis United Kingdom +, writes (13 December 2007):

Lewiis agony auntno your not a virgin if u got it up

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007):

No sorry dude you are not a virgin anymore. I am glad to hear you managed to be safe. Keep it up as you will be able to keep the ladies' respect

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

I don't see why you're all under the impression no condom was used, I did manage to get a rubber on, it wasn't easy due to me being almost flacid, but I got it done.

And I'm not worried as to whether or not I'm a virgin, I don't view virginity as being a gift or anything of the sort, I asked because I would like to know what to say in response should anyone ask me if I'm a virgin or not.

Thanks for the replies.

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A male reader, chlez83 Zambia +, writes (3 December 2007):

The minnute you penetrate her is the minute you lose your virinity.The mere fact the you penetrated her means you did have sex.Did you penetrate her and just lie together motionless,even for those few seconds? I seriously doubt.As others have also said you got bigger things to worry about such as making sure you don't drink and fuck.Wrong combination.You might as well have contracted an STD or even AIDS.Use protection next time but i guess it's hard to think protection when high.Be more careful next time.Accept the fact that a few seconds of pleasure stole away your virginity.

Take care.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007):

I am going to say you are NOT a virgin for the following reasons:

1 - Just because you didn't climax doesn't mean it didn't happen. A lot of women don't climax with their partners - does that make them virgins?

2 - Just because you don't ejaculate doesn't mean you can't get her pregnant or contract an STD. Assuming you were using protection, there is an even lower chance of this.

Besides that, it's hard to say, based on if you feel you've lost your innocence. But if somebody asks you, you have to be honest with her so she doesn't get the wrong impression. It might require a little more than a yes/no response.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007):

does it really mean that much? whether you're a virgin or not?

1st off...you need to be careful. did you use a condom? (i'm implying you didn't and if that is the case, the virginity question isn't really what you should be worried about. you can have caught an STD!)

if there was sexual intercourse i'm guessing you're no longer a virgin, however what you should really be worried about is getting tested for STD's and be more careful next time!

i don't want to lecture you or anything...we all make mistakes and are reckless every now and then, but you have to care for your health.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007):

Yes you lost it. You don't have to climax in order to lose your virginity. Sex is sex.

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