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writes:Okay so I've been crushing on a teacher of mine for maybe 2 years now, and well, I haven't done much to hide it, and he hasn't done much to stop it. In fact, we're really close like we talk almost every day and we completely understand each other (btw nothing illegal happened while I was a student... or after) even though I graduated a while ago. After a run in a few days ago that almost went too far I decided that since I was leaving for college in a few months and he's married and could probably get in a lot of trouble, that we could never be more than friends and he agreed. But I'm having a hard time letting those feelings I have for him go, did I make the right decision?
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (19 June 2010):
 Absolutely you did :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010): You did the right thing. Well done not many people have that amount of self control!!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (18 June 2010):
 YES!!!!!! YOU MADE THE RIGHT DECISION!
And good for you too! You saved yourself from one of the biggest regrets you would have had in your entire life.
Whenever those "I miss him" feelings pop up, think about how he would have cheated on his wife to be with you. Think about how his wife would have felt. And - could YOU have trusted a cheater?? Could you have lived with wrecking his home?
Now you can enjoy college with no emotional baggage and guilt. Your life is a clean slate, and your dreams are in your grasp.
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reader, Accountable  +, writes (18 June 2010):
 You definitely made the right decision :) it will feel hard now, because its always difficult to let go of something you care about, but not too far from now you will look back and be proud that you put a stop to things before they got too serious. If you guys had carried on, his career and marriage may have been ruined, and it would have affected your view of future relationships. He might still mess about with another pupil and ruin his career and marriage, but thats on his head, not yours.
I'm sure that once you get away to college you'll start to feel a lot better about the whole thing. Its probably feeling especially tough now because he became a huge part of your daily routine, and now thats gone things feel unfamiliar. You need to refocus your priorities; if I were you I wouldn't carry on trying to maintain a friendship with him - it'll be easier to move on if you remove yourself and forget about him completely, and surround yourself with other people!
Good luck :)
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reader, baybee-x-sparkii +, writes (18 June 2010):
 Hey sweetie,
HELL YES YOU MADE THE RIGHT DECISION! No matter how much it hurts at the moment if anything happened with you two it could still get you into trouble as in some cases because you are a former student and so they could assume you were together. Darling, if he's married etc, its probably best you stay WELL CLEAR. Someone always gets hurt in these things and it would be worse if it was you, as you knew what you were getting yourself into.
Your doing the right thing
Good luck :)
SB :) x
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