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30-35,
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writes:hi. im in some trouble here. I work at a hardware store in the garden department. a girl my age works as a cashier. we became friends instantly and playfully flirt quite a bit. lately there has been a growing sexual, emotional tension. awhile ago she asked me too send her a pic of a flower. so I did. I started doin this anytime I believe she's in a funk. just too brighten up her day. something has changed as of late. she's gotten a cold and still is working so I cut off a rose that was huge bout the size of a football, and I put it on her register. she found it and smiled, and got all gigly and bubbley. we've hung out a lot after work but mostly with other people. she wanted too hang out wit me after work just us. I told her she should be hanging out with her boyfriend, she replied he doesn't want too. so I said I would. when the end of the day was coming up I was gonna stay late so I told her too go ahead and go home. she waited bout 30 minutes and then called me, I told her not too wait, just too go home and get some rest. I knew if we did something would happen and I do not want too come inbetween her and her boyfriend. but the tension between us is so great that I can say that either her or me would end up doin something that would start an avelanche, and I don't want that. she's in love with her boyfriend and I don't want too risk her gettin hurt over me or me screwing something up like I always have done, thru all that though I still want nothing more than for her too be happy. she tells me that she often dreams about me yet will never tell me what of wich obviously leaves little too wonder. did I do the right thing by pretty much ditching her? what do I do too prevent anything from happening between us?what do I do? I could never make her happy like he does, I could never amount too that type of guy? what do I do?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (25 April 2010):
Well obviously he doesn't make her as happy as she claims or she wouldn't be ditching him for you all the time, texting you all the time, and everything else.
All is fair in love and war, so I say go for it.
Tell her you think she's beautiful, and you want to be with her. Tell her you'd worship her and make her happy every day. Then tell her you want her to split up with her boyfriend and give you a chance.
Tell her she doesn't have to make a decision there and then but you want her to think about it.
Then leave her to it for a while. If she comes back and says no then cut out all the flowers and flirting. Still be nice but make it clear you can't only be her friend and all the other stuff would just be disrespectful to the man she chose to be with.
Of course I could be wrong...
It could be better to back away and leave her to it. Continue ditching her and say that you can't carry on with all this hanging out when she has a boyfriend as it's not right.
Good Luck!! xx
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