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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:Last year September my mother's sister who was very kind to everyone passed away. Her death left most of us stressed out because of that I gained a lot of weight and stopped looking after myself. I was also going through a terrible breakup with my then boyfriend who was abusive and cheated on me. The beginning of 2016 I had to shoot pictures for my student card. I was big and dark and looked so stressed out and older on the picture. My boyfriend of four months only saw my picture last month and was shocked to see how different I look now but lightened the situation by making a joke about it then we both laughed. I haven't seen him in a month because we are both preparing our exams and our schedules clash. Yesterday he called me and I told him jokingly that the distance is killing me and that he must not take this long to see me because he might find me changed and looking like I do on the student card. His response was "I will buy beer so I can cope with the situation because that way I won't have to concentrate that much on you". What does that mean? Does it mean if I gained weight he will lose interest in me? He is the only guy I have ever slept with so I'm strongly emotionally connected to him and I knew him three years before we started dating. Last year we didn't see each other because I was in a different city way far from his. Now we school in cities close to each other only 30 minutes drive away.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 November 2016):
 He was joking, try and not be to sensitive.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (2 November 2016):
 Naaaaah - where did you take it from, that his comment is about your weight ??!
He was just joking. He says , more or less, " I'll have to drawn my sorrows in alcohol, beer will help me to not miss you too much " Said in jest- he does not mean it literally ( at least, I hope ! ) Anyway, it has got nothing to do with weight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2016): You're being a little oversensitive. He was kidding with you. He's just trying to stay focused on exams and not being distracted by only thinking of you. You added your own interpretation, based on your own low opinion of yourself.
Sweetheart, get focused on your studies! Have a sense of humor, that is as important as your looks!
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (1 November 2016):
 He is joking with you. However you owe it to yourself to look after yourself. That doesn't mean you have to be a perfect 8 - or 12, 16 or whatever. It means you have to be healthy, eat properly, take some exercise, and be happy. The last one is the most important.
Author Kurt Vonnegut said: "I tell you, we are here on Earth to fart around, and don't let anybody tell you different."
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