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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have been friends with a man for 8 years and now I will be leaving to go elsewhere. I believe there is an attraction between us but we have never really spoken about it and he has never touched me. The other day he asked if we could have a bittersweet, final chat. He said he hopes the sense of loss wont hamper our chat. We had our final chat, and it was obvious we were avoiding talking about not seeing each other again. Finally, when it was time to leave, he stood up, looked around, opened his arms, and said "ok lets do this. Give me a hug". I must admit that it felt really good. He hugged me close and for a long time, much longer than you would normally hug a regular friend. I felt that he must have felt something. I've never quite had a hug like that before. Do you think he felt something? Reply to this Question
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female
reader, Delphi  +, writes (8 December 2014):
Let's brainstorm.This is my most favorite part.
This guy had 8 years to make his move.There are many reasons he didn't.
a)He didn't want to spoil the good friendship he had with
you
b)He didn't want to lose you as a friend once you guys
began dating and in case things went wrong
c)There are varying levels of friendship.He didn't feel
that level of chemistry to take it to the next level
d)He never wanted to hurt you which might happen if he
ended dating you.
e)you are not his type though you might be what every
other guy wants.It happens many times.
He has been friends with you for 8 years and you are going to move away.Maybe he will never get to see you again.He was just feeling emotional.There are moments in friendships where a hug lasts longer.It doesn't mean anything.I don't know him.I am just making assumptions here.
But if you feel something for him,I think you should say it.You don't get too many second chances in life.But also be prepared to hear a No.
I strongly believe there should be no What Ifs in life.Its important to be at peace with oneself so that you can move on and be happy.
I wish you the very best
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