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writes:Dear cupid, I could use some advice. I am a young woman who has been dealing with body issues. I was morbidly obese through out my entire teenage life. I was also diagnosed with a hormonal condition that makes me gain weight. Anyways, I am very proud to say I have lost a lot of weight by myself. However, my condition is still with me and I'm also dealing with the aftermath of major weight loss such as loose and wrinkling skin, etc. People who have gone through this will understand what I mean. Getting back to the point, I am dealing with body issues with myself. I am quite young, only 23. I should be happy, confident, outgoing, etc. Instead, I am somewhat depressed and insecure. It has just taken a toll on me mentally. I am not comfortable with my body. I don't think it's that serious as to go to a therapist, but I could just use some advice.
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reader, Euphoria30  +, writes (12 June 2015):
Dear OP,When I was 23, I didn't have a weight problem, but for sure deep down I was NOT outgoing, self-confident etc. etc., even if I tried to look like that. Looking back, there was a specific picture of me that I had, a person I wanted to be, and I wanted to force myself to become that person no matter if it was fun or not.What I would have really enjoyed was reading, dancing, going to alternative cinema, talking about philosophical issues, going to theatre, maybe taking an acting class. But I judged myself for being lame, introverted and geeky.What I did though was trying to "fit in" with my friends, being a party girl, watching block buster movies, going to the gym instead of dance school. My advice would be the same that I would give today to my younger self: Be more kind to yourself, and pick what is BEST for you, not what you think SHOULD be best. Allow yourself to be YOU. You're already good. You don't have to be someone else.If you're not in the mood for going out, well then, so be it. Maybe you're in the mood for something else? Ask yourself, more and more: What would I really like to do? What would I really enjoy? Whose company makes me feel happy and loved? Go after that. I am trying more and more every day to follow my own advice. It takes a while and sometimes it means saying good bye to ideas of yourself, to readjust your ideal more to the reality, which can be a painful process. But in the end it will help, making decisions for the real you, instead of playing a part.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2015): Hi, im 24, I have body issues too. Ive gone from 14 stone to 10 stone through exercise and healthy eating. I felt more self conscience now than I did before, I now have several eating disorders such a bulimia and I diet with laxatives... youre never going to be happy with your body until you realise you arent perfect, no one is perfect. You can get the body you want, but you'll always want better. It's best to be honest with yourself, YOU can make things better, you just have to try and put youre all into it! I'm desperately trying to sort myself out before I lose everyone I love and you can too :)
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (11 June 2015):
 While im not fat i do get looks often bc of my size. It used to bother me but does not now. Id get put down or teased even recently I got thrown out of a gym by a discriminatory a**hole who based his decision solely on my physical appearance. I didnt react to that. My advice: You are seeking approval from society a validation for acceptance. If you approach your situation like this you will have those body issues forever bc you will always find that one person who comments or the b*tch who gives you that look. You need to ignore the outside influences and put more value on yourself by cooking healthier committing to no drugs booze and cigs exercise regularly knowing you put more value on yourself will allow you to gain more confidence and be a lot happier.Good luck.
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