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writes:(Sorry if this is rly long)So about 6 months ago I found myself seriously liking my friend, this isn't his real name but let's call him Dan. I know Dan from my drama group, we go to separate schools. Someone else I know from his school says he's a real d***, always getting in trouble. And he sent me and our mutual friends a video of him and his school friends setting a fire in a park. It's strange cause he was such a sweetheart in my drama group, if not a bit edgy. Thing is, he left the drama group in the beginning of February. On his last day he was so nice, he hugged me and said he'll miss me. A few days went by, he hadn't spoken on FaceBook like he usually does, I invited him over FaceBook to hang out for my birthday. He saw the message, didn't reply, he stopped talking altogether. A few days ago I messaged him saying that I'm going out on Saturday and he's welcome to come if he wants and if he doesn't want to I'll leave him alone. I really like him but at the same time I don't want a relationship with him, I know he's bad news but I miss him and wish he'd just talk to me. So basically, do you think I'm wasting my time waiting for him to say something to me? Did I do something wrong?
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (24 March 2015):
 I agree YOU did nothing wrong.
He DOES sound like bad news. There is nothing COOL in setting fires.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2015): My dear, it's for these sorts of reasons that parents have to monitor your devices to see with whom you're communicating, and spending your time with.
Setting a fire in a park is against the law!!! Putting it on the internet or passing around a video will lead police right to him; and they could arrest him right on the spot and place him in juvie! Sometimes there are hidden cameras setup in public parks for public-safety, and the police may already know.
You are betraying the trust of your parents, when you involve yourself with boys that even friends your own age warn you to be trouble. You get all lovey-dovey and mushy over a hug? I know he's bad news but...BUT WHAT?!!!
Seriously?!!
He gets into trouble, and associating with him will get you into trouble too! Getting involved with this boy is very irresponsible, and you could lose a lot of privileges; if your friends are smart and alert your parents. They wouldn't be ratting you out, they'd be protecting you from your bad choices. Right now, your friend is proving she is more responsible by warning you! She's an excellent friend!
Any luck, you haven't heard from him; because he got caught and he's already in juvie!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 March 2015):
 you did NOTHING wrong.
stop trying to figure out what YOU did wrong.
as for Dan, leave him alone and let him be. Once you let a boy know you are interested (as you have done) the ball is in their court to contact you.
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