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Crushing on my best friend.....should I tell her?

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Question - (23 August 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 26 August 2011)
A female Canada age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I am getting these things .. and i am starting to think i am bi sexual .. but i don't wanna tell anyone .. atleast not yet , cause knowing the people i know .. they probably won't believe me for some silly reason . .and i don't know what to do about it .. and i think i am crushing on my best friend !! . and I seriously don't know what to do .. i know this sounds soooo stupid .. should i tell her ?? I am scared that if i tell erh she won't wanna be my friend anymore .. i am scared that if i tell anyone they won't wanna be my friend anymore .. and i am scared that i fi tell my family , they won't think of me the same , esspecially like my grandparents and stuffs .. cause they are major christians .. and my grandma always says that ussually bi people or gay/lez people ussually arn't christians .. cause god amde us attract the oppisite genders .. but what if it is a phase ? .. My mom told em that it runs on my dads side of the fmaily .. too be homosexual.. but i just don't want to tell her .. maybe never .. Please can someone help me ?! :/

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A female reader, PoppyMae United Kingdom +, writes (26 August 2011):

There's no reason to worry yourself so much :) I'm sure that almost every one when at your age questioned their sexuality at some point; even I confess that I had a massive crush on my friend.

Just because you're having feelings for your friend doesn't automatically mean that you're suddenly bisexual or gay, It just means your like the rest of us :)

However, if you seriously feel like this isn't some sort of phase then the best thing to do is just to come clean to your friend :) Perhaps tell her that you think you might be bisexual, not that you have a crush on her, and see how she reacts. If things go well perhaps one day you could tell her how you feel when you feel brave enough; remember just do it when you feel ready :)

As for your family, don't come out to them unless you are completely sure in your mind of your sexual orientation otherwise they might not take you seriously and support you as much as you'd like. Even though you're scared about telling them it is always best to tell your family what is going on and I'm sure that they will be more accepting than you think :)

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A female reader, skibri United Kingdom +, writes (24 August 2011):

skibri agony auntQuestions about sexuality are common for people our age.Changing sexuality is difficult and can cause problems but your family will probably accept it. Start off by talking to someone you trust (Mum, Dad, teacher) and as for the grandparents if you are Bi then they should accept that because they will understand that 'GOD' gave everybody free will- so you can be what you want.

You should tell your freind- if she's a true Friend the she won't be bothered. Just say it's probably a phase but you feel better telling her

Hope this helps

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