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Could u help me define if there’s a chemistry between us?

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Question - (22 November 2012) 2 Answers - (Newest, 22 November 2012)
A male Viet Nam age 30-35, *rcupid writes:

So I’m an Asian living in my country and he’s an exchange student. He’s straight and I’m straight to him and I have no doubt about his sexuality. He has a girlfriend but she can’t sleep with him at night living with her parents. So I usually stay over at his place, in his bed and hug him to sleep (2 straight guys hugging each other to sleep is not a weird thing in Asia). But for him as a Westerner, he admitted it took him a while to get used to sleeping with me and being hugged by me (he doesn’t usually hug me back). when the light turns off, laying my head in his bare chest is the most natural thing for us, we have pillow talk and I rub his head. And our faces are really close, like I can kiss him within 1 inch.

Sometimes when laying with him, I can’t help myself feeling horny so I take his boy out of his boxer and stroke it. He’s asleep but I think he knows cos he puts it back, puts off my hand and covers his crotch. he never gets an erection so I assume he doesn’t feel sexually exited. Sometimes I’m afraid it might affect our friendship like he doesn’t wanna meet me anymore but nothing happens. We just wake up, he cooks me breakfast then we study together and hang out.

We know each other for a month and a half and we traveled together. He took off his jacket giving it to me when I was frozen. He knows I’m sensitive and he knows if it’s because of him (not his fault but the differences between 2 cultures) he would try to make up or explain to me. He’s leaving my country in a month and we will be traveling together for 3 weeks. Should I build up my courage and be more cheeky? I’m not planning on revealing my feelings, just want to make a push to make things happen if they are meant to be. He knows me as a really good looking guy and I’m hit on a lot by boys and girls and we have gay jokes, sometimes there are confusing moments cos the jokes sound so real.

I adore him a lot so I really appreciate if u can spent ur time to help me figure out how he feels about me and when i'm around him.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2012):

From the way you have explained it,he is not attracted to you sexually. And you say he is leaving in about a month, let it go. You have also mentioned that he has a gf. So what do you want him to do? Leave her for your sake, or cheat on her?

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (22 November 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntyou try to masturbate him while he's supposedly asleep (he's not if he's stopping you) and you ask if you should be MORE cheeky.

I have no freaking clue why he allows you in his bed at night.

for some reason he's tolerating your sexual advances but if he's stopping you, and not getting hard, he's NOT interested... probably pretty repulsed to be honest... but being kind to you.

I'd personally not be spending time with a person who was so aggressive time after time being told NO.... even if he's telling you without words.

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