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Could this really be love?

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Question - (19 June 2010) 5 Answers - (Newest, 19 June 2010)
A female United States age 22-25, anonymous writes:

I was wondering is it really possible to fall in love with someone u never met in real life!!! I have been in a long distance relationship before. It all started when I was 13, I've met this guy on the AOL message boards and when started talkin to eachother using (AIM). Then we started talkin on the phone, and that went on until I was 15!! So by that time we were saying we love eachother ( puppy love lol ) but then he got a job and we were barley talkin then he told me he didn't love me anymore ( yes I was hurt ) so I got a boyfriend that stays in Florida ( I live in Fl, Online Boyfriend lives in New York ) and I told when him when he finally called me back and then things wasn't right. He barely called me before he I told him I had a boyfriend. But 2 years have pasted. I'm now 18 ( I turn 19 in 2 months, and he turns 19 in 3 months ) and I text him back in back in Dec of 2009 and we was cacthin up on everythin. And he was tellin me that he still loves me and I do really love him. In them 2 years that passed we both had relationships and things didn't work out. But we still text/talk sometimes. We still tell eachother we love one another :) But my question is do u think its love or what? I mean I know we never meet, or anythin. But we were kids at the time. But I honesty really think I love him even tho I've never touch him, kiss him or anythin like that. But I'm use to it, even tho I would LOVE to hug him and tell him I love him in person! We did talk about meetin up also, but he's in school and I start back in the fall. He also have a job. And I know I would be nerves, but I know he would be the same person who I fell in love with over the phone.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010):

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I agree with the woman who wrote anonymously! I feel if/when we ever meet I think our love would grow stronger.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010):

i think it can be love. I met my boyfriend online when i was 13. I knew i loved him then. We met when we were 14 and loved each other, it was a long distance relationship and it was really hard but we made it work because of how much we loved each other. We are not unattractive people and we both have had many people of the opposite sex have crushes on us, however we stay strong because of how much we love each other. We are both 20 now and living together. We both go to university and our lives are very much on track and we are having our 6 year anniversary 1st of next month.

The thing that i thought made us the perfect match, is the fact that we got to know each other on the inside extremely well, which i believe personality is more important than looks. Ofcourse i got photos of him but to tell you the truth he didnt look very good in the photos but i decided to meet him because i really loved his personality.

Then when i saw him in person i couldnt believe my eyes he was drop dead gorgeous and i thought he was way out of my league.

So it can be love, however our love grew so much more when we met.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2010):

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I wrote asked this question 'Could this be love'

I do agree with some of the things but of you are saying :) and we both send eachother pics of one another. And I thought u can love somebody for who they are?!? But thanks for answering the question. My feelings for him have not change. I still live me life, meet new ppl and ect. I was just wonderin was it love?!? :)

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A male reader, Jmtmj Australia +, writes (19 June 2010):

Jmtmj agony auntI don't think so, and I'll tell you why... To truly love somebody I believe you have to truly know them. I have no doubt that you guys have a fantastic thing going over the phone and probably know each other really well. However there's so many things that you don't know about a person until you spend time with them in person, their moods, their mannerisms, how they act around other people, friends, ex's, baggage, how they dress, look, etc. etc.

So you can say that you love what you know about him so far, but until you know him completely, accept him for who he is as a whole can you really qualify it as true love. I had a similar thing happen with a girl when I was younger and when I finally did meet this girl that I thought I loved, there wasn't an ounce of chemistry...

Hope you have better luck :)

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A female reader, romany United Kingdom +, writes (19 June 2010):

romany agony auntWithout looking into his eyes, who knows what sort of love it is, I've had several online friends, and a couple i've loved and cared about, but not in a physical way I met one, and when we saw each other, both of us were a little disappointed, as we so wanted to be soul mates, but the chemistry just wasnt there, but we still talk every now and then, and still are great friends, we also have uncanny coincidences happening in our lives at the same time.

The other one turned out to be a raving nutter, who i'd spoken to for 8 years, online and telephone.

You wont know till you meet. Make sure your safe tho when you meet.

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