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Could this man I've been chatting to for 2 weeks be telling the truth? Or is he lying to me about his dream? Why tell me?

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Question - (2 July 2016) 12 Answers - (Newest, 5 July 2016)
A female Ireland age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hello iam chatting with a man of 57 years old, he actually lives in the same city, and we are planning to meet in a few days.

We chat everyday, and exchange photos. Its been 2 weeks since we started chatting online.

One day he told me that he dreamt of making love to me.

So my question is could this dream be true or his lying, what does this dream indicate?

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (5 July 2016):

CindyCares agony aunt OP, honestly I don't understand what's your point, what are you getting at.

" Even if he wants to get laid ... he wants a woman who looks like me ".

So ?... Is it a compliment ? Do you read this as very flattering ?..

First, it makes sense that a horny guy who is eager to seal the deal would it lay it on thick with compliments. Par for the course.

Second- it does not sound such a big sign of appreciation to me. Suppose that you are a brunette with big tits , and he says " Oh cool, a brunette with big tits ! My favourite fuck ! " He would be stating the truth.... still it's not something to feel your heart all a-flutter about !

I get the impression that you are not on the same page with this guy. You send him LOVE notes ( love notes ? and you haven't even seen him yet ?.... ) and he answer your love notes AROUSE him.

You say " love ", he answers " hard on ".

That should make you think.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (4 July 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntLove note? Sweetie you have not even met this guy, he only wants to have sex with you, if that is all you want from him then yes okay go for it, but I have a feeling you want a man who wants more from you than sex, you want someone to love you and treat you well, but this man is not him. So please think of that before you go and meet him and fall for him when he is only wanting sex. Don't mistake sex for love.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2016):

Thanks for the good replies , Honey pie I don't think he is married or has a partner because I have all his Facebook accounts and he sends me videos of his location and his always alone or with men. I will meet him in a public place and judge and actually we have been chatting for 19 days. And Cindy cares thanks for your reply but he said even if he wants to get laid he wants a woman like me, or who looks like me, he thinks about me 3 times a day , every love note I send him arouses him .

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (4 July 2016):

CindyCares agony aunt Translation: he just wants to get laid every now and then. No committment, no obligation.

Only , he knows that if he says it just like that, plain and simple, he won't catch much fish with this bait.

So , he prefers to make it look as if he is a rebel, a free spirit. Chicks dig more " Lord Byron " than " average horndog ".

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (3 July 2016):

Honeypie agony aunt"But at the same time he said in his world he does not believe in the stupid schedules of subculture approach like let's pretend we are this and soon we will have nothing to do with it."

He doesn't want to make you HIS GF or have a steady relationship. Just something casual (from what you write that he said). Basically he is saying let's not do "titles".

My advice? look him up online, I wouldn't be surprised if he was... married or at least had a partner. THAT could explain why he wants things to be casual.

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A female reader, Andie's Thoughts United Kingdom +, writes (3 July 2016):

Andie's Thoughts agony auntIt means he is rushing things. He's a stranger and he's talking about having sex with you. It wouldn't be making love because you don't love each other. It seems like he's hoping you're naive enough to let him have his way with you.

Someone wanting to date you after 2 weeks is nice, but the way he's putting it across is creepy.

Stay in public and don't let him rush things.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (3 July 2016):

So_Very_Confused agony auntHis "dream" indicates he wants to get into your pants

Meet him if you must.in public. always.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2016):

You've only been communicating with this man for a fortnight and already he's saying he wants to make you his companion. Really? He hasn't even met you so how can he know that.

I agree with the others in that he obviously is thinking about having sex with you but beyond that, who knows at this stage.

I've done a bit of internet dating myself and am wary of anyone that talks about sex early on. They're usually trying to gauge your attitude to see how "up for it" you might be.

He says, "In his world he does not believe in the stupid schedules of subculture approach like let's pretend we are this and soon we will have nothing to do with it"

I'm not sure I understand what that means but any time someone says I don't like to follow society's rules it usually means that they want to do whatever they like or in your case it'll probably be, "I'm not into following the normal rules of dating."

I think you need to go into this with your eyes open and your head screwed on. Don't get too wrapped up in what people say online. You need to meet them and gauge for yourself what their game is and how genuine they are.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2016):

Thanks for the replies, he actually said that he likes me wishes he could cuddle me and wants me to be his woman, his girl, his friend, his companion and just his. But at the same time he said in his world he does not believe in the stupid schedules of subculture approach like let's pretend we are this and soon we will have nothing to do with it. Please help me understand what he means?

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (3 July 2016):

YouWish agony auntI'm sure he's telling the truth, either in that it was an actual dream and the guy's horny, as the others have said, or he's daydreaming. Either way, it's a come-on.

I think it's kinda creepy to be honest, or at the very least, he's grooming you. You've only been chatting with him online for 2 weeks. Don't send him nude pictures over the internet, and GO SLOW.

Be careful that his only reason for wanting to meet you is to have sex. Don't make this about sex.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (3 July 2016):

CindyCares agony aunt Yes, of course he can have had a dream about you - why not ?

Being a sexual dream, for once the meaning is quite literal. He wants to have sex with you. If just out of general horniness, or about a special liking for you personally, that we cannot know , particularly based on a dream.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (3 July 2016):

Honeypie agony aunt"So my question is could this dream be true or his lying, what does this dream indicate?"

Sure he could have been dreaming about you, why not?

And the dream probably means he is horny and hope to get in your pants asap.

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