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female
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writes:Does this guy like me or not? I'm talking to a guy from my college who pursued me first like 3 years ago. Anyway, we both just got out of relationships about a month ago. We hung out with our friends at some bars like 3 nights in a row, and he said he liked me but wants to take it slow since he knows rebound relationships dont work-as do I. Anyway, last night my ex told me he was going to start dating someone, and that pissed me off so I told this new guy about it and that I wanted to party. We couldn't last night because it was Sunday, but he asked if I wanted to tonight. I agreed to it, but he hasn't called or texted me and it's 8:30. I don't know what he had in mind, like at his place or with friends or at a bar-don't know where you can go on a Monday night. But, what I don't get is he moved into his new place like 2 weeks ago, and at the time told me I'll have to see it, and how we can take the light rail downtown and how I could crash at his place and he could take the couch. But, he doesn't really make any moves. He says he's a texter, true, he has yet to call me, but he'll text at like 11pm asking if I'm downtown, when I'm in bed! Hello! Does he like me or not? What is going on? And do I text him tonight to see if we are still going to "party" or not?
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reader, katatonik +, writes (30 December 2008):
 If he came out and said he liked you, he probably does. Enough guys post on this site agonizing about how to work up the courage to tell this or that girl of their feelings for her that I don't think it's something guys just admit for shits and giggles.
I'd wait on texting him and see what he says/does. He said he wanted to take things slow and if you want to keep his interest you will probably have to cultivate the impression that you aren't clingy and getting prematurely attached.
As far as the texting late at night goes, it is clearly bad etiquette, but having had friends guilty of this I don't think you should read too much into the timing. Some people genuinely don't seem to remember that just because they're still awake doesn't necessarily mean everyone else is, too.
It doesn't sound as if either of you has a strong desire to rush into a "rebound" relationship so I see no harm in giving this guy a little time so that you can understand him better. You are, of course, free to move on at any point if you decide he's not showing enough interest. Good luck =]
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