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writes:I saw my ex on Thursday night and it was strange because things ended very badly with us, I was an idiot and was reckless the way I did it. I know I acted very insensitively after too so I didn't help the situation. So of course I expected her to want nothing to do with me, I mean I made her feel like she was nothing to me...But Thursday night was the first time I saw her since I ended it two months ago. I thought I'd at least say hi and she was really nice back, in fact she looked really happy to see me and made small talk. Then we went about our night, now even my friends were surprised she was nice and seemed happy to see me after how I left things. It was like she was fine with me even after all that happened with us!I wondered why do you think this is? At first I thought maybe she still has feelings for me, but then I thought maybe it's she's just moved on and isn't holding a grudge? My mates were useless, but most girls would not want anything to do with a guy after what I did so I'm just surprised after I was so insensitive and I know I hurt her a hell of a lot, she even ended up crying that night that she acted that way! I'm not complaining, I find it nice she isn't rude to me considering, advice would be useful?
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reader, Darrell Goodliffe  +, writes (27 April 2013):
 I'd say its most likely she has moved on and decided she wants to be your friend. From what you are saying you obviously did something to deserve her anger but id say the fact she has let go of that indicates she has also let go of you. I dont think the same can be said for you to be honest, the fact that you still feel guilty suggests to me you have yet to move on and I think you hope, rather than expect she still has feelings for you.
Negative feelings can be just as potent a tie to a person as positive ones in my opinion and they are still symbolic of some connection. You are probably going to find this pattern a little awkward to adjust too at first especially if you do still have unresolved feelings for her, however the fact she is still around suggests to me this is a relationship, even if it is just a friendship, worth keeping going and working at so I would ride the feeling of awkwardness and enjoy what you have together.
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