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writes:I have been friends with a guy for about four years now, I have been very close to him, reasons being I felt we are very similar in many ways, he reminded me of myself a male version of me, he knew I liked him, but he said he just wanted to be friends and nothing else, we use to argue every time he got a girlfriend, it hurt I guess I was jealous. I hate the green eyed monster thing, but I just couldn't help it! I felt what was wrong with me? Because in my opinion we would make a good couple. But for about a year now, I have been wondering if he is straight? My friend said he was giving her the come on, but when she respond he backed-off and now his ex-girlfriend told me he couldn't rise to the occasion, so I don't know what to think anymore? I am a bit confused. Cause that doesn't sound like the guy, I am friends with cause I liked him cause he's very alpha male,if he's gay that's not the guy I thought I was friends with,that would mean he's a lie and living one too! Any help with this problem would be great, thanks! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2011): ask him about his sexual orientation with no more wondering and if he is then you should stand by him as a friend if he chooses to come out to family and friends ....I've gone through this and hell it is hard...you are saying that he is a lie and living one!! I have one question for you....DO YOU THINK IT IS EASY!!...
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reader, georgey5100 +, writes (31 May 2011):
i agree with Jac2b55... its a very sensitive subject and to accuse him of being a lie and living a lie is highly unfair on him! saying that he's not the guy you thought he was simply because he is gay is also highly unfair on him! being gay doesnt make a person any different! you can't be angry at him if he is... you're the one that has a crush on him! he's never messed with your heart... you need to go easy on him... think about how you are treating him right now... a friend wouldnt act the way that you are and you certainly wouldnt argue with him for getting a girlfriend or boyfriend... i'm sorry to say it but he is not your man... you need to find your own guy who will not waste 4 years of your life while you beat about the bush.... good luck honey x
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reader, Jac2b55  +, writes (31 May 2011):
 Ask him! You have been friends for a very long time, aslong as you approach the question with a little tact, your friendship will be fine.
If he is gay and still in the closet, a good friend is probably what he needs right now!
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