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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Recently I have begun to wonder if my best friend has feelings for me. Some of the things he does make me wonder and I was just wondering if you would be able to tell me whether these could be signs that he does? One really important piece of information is that I have a boyfriend who said best friend is also friends With, so I very much doubt he would ever openly pursue me.I've divided these 'signs' into categories.1. Textingon various occasions, we have literally been texting each other all day, discussing even the silliest things that the conversation leads to. He could so easily politely end the conversation but it goes on for ages, as if he just doesn't want to stop talking to me. The other day he was with some friends and still spent the whole time texting with me so he is surely thinking about me even when he's with other friends? He also sometimes puts as many as five kisses on the end of a text, although I am aware this could be autocorrect. I don't know whether he texts with anyone else this way.2. physical contactHe is not a very tactile person with me generally but I have noticed certain things about the way he touches me, mainly the way he hugs me. When my boyfriend is present, he will sometimes avoid hugging me, and when he does it's really limp and he only uses one arm. However, when my boyfriend is not there, he uses both arms, squeezes me tighter, and sometimes rubs my shoulder with his hand really subtly. He never hugs me straight on though it's always at an angle. The other times he has touched me is on my head with his fingers. He once sort of stroked my hair, but then commented on how dry it was... He also once imitated the way I had touched his head and I read that imitating body language can be a sign of interest? He also doesn't shy away from any physical contact I make with him. Once at my house we were on my bed using my tablet, he laid flat on his back and to kind of test the water, I rested my head on his shoulder much like couples do when they sleep, except I put a pillow between my head and his shoulder to create a barrier between us as I Didn't want to be very forward. It was very late at night and we didn't have much to do so he could easily have left but he stayed there for several minutes so he was obviously at least a bit comfortable with it.3. EffortHe makes far more effort than any of my other friends to see me, texting me nearly every Saturday to see if I'm around and often coming to my boyfriend's house during the week while I am there. I also feel that he is closer to me than to my boyfriend, even though they have more common interests. He has stayed at my house when it was just the two of us until 1am on two occasions, but both times decided not to stay over, he could have lost track of time, but could also have been afraid that he would make a move on me or he was sad that we couldn't share a bed perhaps? He went through all of his Facebook photos with me, which makes me think he really wanted me to take an interest in him. He also told me that he was thinking about getting us xmas presents, something we never do in our friend group, could this be a way of buying me a present without it looking suspicious?The final thing is that he seems a really quiet person, but he is really comfortable And quite open around me. He even gave me details of a really horrific personal experience that he has told hardly anyone About.Sometimes I think he wants to be more than friends and other times I'm not sure And to tell you the truth I Think I may have feelings for him too... help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2012): This is amazing. What are you waiting for. U two sound sweet!
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